Submitted by Kinkade, the photographer

“I took this picture of my lover one year ago, when they weighed only 90 lbs. I was just beginning to try and understand their aversion to food, which turned out to be a much more troubling obsession with starving their body into what they considered a more feminine shape.”

Posted by on April 8th, 2012 at 10:00 am

Category: faces 5 comments »

5 Responses to “aversion”

  1. Anonymous

    :( Hope they’re keeping healthy and feeling happier


    Kat replied:

    Since you commented on that, this photo was submitted in October. Kinkade also wrote:

    “How far we’ve come. Getting to know each other was an education of hard knocks but in our time together we’ve found a way to comfortably consolidate our bodies with our gender and come to lead healthier, happier lives for having gone through it. What if everyone could have what we have?”


  2. awkwardturtles

    really glad to hear they’re doing better. i had a really unhealthy aversion to food when i was an adolescent, which i’m realizing in retrospect also had a lot to do with gender, but in my case it was about trying to make my body less feminine. that didn’t work out so well, and the result was a decade of frustrated resignation. it’s a relief to know, now, about gender variance and that i have other options!


  3. Andronymous

    Wow. I needed to know that I wasn’t the only maab nonbinary person with gender (read: femininity) based eating problems, I just didn’t know it. I suddenly feel so much less crazy. Thank you for submitting, and I’m glad to hear you’re both doing well.


  4. Anon

    I think this picture is beautiful. Thank you for sharing it. I’m glad to hear you are both doing well. Also glad to know I’m not the only one who has gender-related food issues… thank you. <3


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