Being Myself

Someone wrote…

I just want to be accepted for being myself. Is that too much to ask?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on April 17th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Being Myself”

  1. Anonymous

    Of course not. I accept you for who you are, whoever you are. I don’t know why, but I just get this really good feeling from you, a feeling like you are an incredible person, and you deserve the most amazing friends ever. I have faith that you will find those people in your life. Just keep in mind, you deserve amazing people, and it is never, ever too much to ask that they except you for just exactly who you are.


  2. torrid_wind

    I believe that it is natural to the human experience to desire to be accepted as we are. However, I’ve learned the hard way, (is there another way?) that this desire is akin to asking the mountain to come to Muhammad. It makes us willing participants in giving away our own power. In the long run, by far, the greater challenge is in giving oneself PERMISSION to be the self they feel most comfortable being. This is a spiritual challenge and a war that we wage within ourselves from the time we wake in the morning, until we close our eyes to sleep at night. As long as our objective is befriending our own spirit and finding inner peace, we’re on the road to becoming something Greater Than our outer self. Someone once said, “Achieve GREATNESS. Be YOURSELF.” There is power, wisdom and BEAUTY in learning to develop self-acceptance. It is the way to Inner Peace. There is no one right way to do this. We are all different individuals united with all other living things only in the Inner World. However, based on your question, I would suggest that a good place to start for you is learn and re-learn the lesson to give yourself PERMISSION be your true Self every moment of everyday that you feel challenged to abandon your own feelings in preference for who/what anyone else wants you to be.

    You are BEAUTIFUL within. Never allow anyone to convince you that the way that you were created is insufficient. Learning to value your own inner beauty and the beauty inside others is a fruitful journey (especially, because it is often a challenge to accept others as they are if they are channeling hate).

    Personally, I find TREMENDOUS BEAUTY in androgynous individuals. My strongest attraction is to individuals abandon conventional notions of “maleness” or “femaleness”. I didn’t begin to learn this until I realized that I had been allowing society to only certain constructs of Self. I had to give myself permission to swim upstream by following my feelings of attraction first to individuals of my same sex, then later to individuals who identified gender for themselves outside of the mainstream.

    This is what I can tell you today.


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