Defining the self

Someone wrote…

My mom and I have been talking about gender. She argues that by considering myself androgynous I’m overdefining myself. She thinks that if I could just let go of my questions about gender and think about myself as a person, then I might be happier.
It took me a few hours of thinking to realize that I really do just want to be a person. The reason I’m choosing to live outside the gender binary in the first place is because I don’t want to be defined -as a person- by anyone else’s conception of who I should be.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on July 3rd, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Defining the self”

  1. Nai

    I’m glad you came to that realization, but I really hope your mom doesn’t think that about all non-binary people, because that would be really offensive…


  2. Brett Blatchley

    I *so understand this*!!! Thank you for sharing it! :-)


  3. Indigo

    That’s a pretty cool mom! :) wish mine was like that…

    I had to come to terms with being label-less a while ago too. I tried so hard to figure out who I was and too many words fit. Eventually (after many tears) I just said “fcuk it” and decided I’m just a person, that’s all. :D

    Stay happy! <3


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