My mom and I have been talking about gender. She argues that by considering myself androgynous I’m overdefining myself. She thinks that if I could just let go of my questions about gender and think about myself as a person, then I might be happier.
It took me a few hours of thinking to realize that I really do just want to be a person. The reason I’m choosing to live outside the gender binary in the first place is because I don’t want to be defined -as a person- by anyone else’s conception of who I should be.
What’s your experience?