Defining the self
Someone wrote…
My mom and I have been talking about gender. She argues that by considering myself androgynous I’m overdefining myself. She thinks that if I could just let go of my questions about gender and think about myself as a person, then I might be happier.
It took me a few hours of thinking to realize that I really do just want to be a person. The reason I’m choosing to live outside the gender binary in the first place is because I don’t want to be defined -as a person- by anyone else’s conception of who I should be.
What’s your experience?
Posted by Freiya on July 3rd, 2012 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 3 comments »
July 4th, 2012 at 12:17 am |
I’m glad you came to that realization, but I really hope your mom doesn’t think that about all non-binary people, because that would be really offensive…
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July 5th, 2012 at 5:00 am |
I *so understand this*!!! Thank you for sharing it! :-)
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July 14th, 2012 at 4:36 pm |
That’s a pretty cool mom! :) wish mine was like that…
I had to come to terms with being label-less a while ago too. I tried so hard to figure out who I was and too many words fit. Eventually (after many tears) I just said “fcuk it” and decided I’m just a person, that’s all. :D
Stay happy! <3
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