Different combinations

Morgan wrote…

I have a female body. I like when my girlfriend calls me ‘they’ instead of ‘she’, and I love being called handsome and manly. I still am her girlfriend, I still feel that way. It’s funny how sometimes you need to try a couple different combinations to see what works.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on October 4th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Different combinations”

  1. Anonymous

    I’m glad that you’ve found something that feels comfortable for you. I am female bodied and genderqueer, and my long time girlfriend recently came out to me as genderqueer as well. The dynamic between us is a little different now that we both have opted to not use gender specific words in regards to each other (pronouns, “girlfriend”, and other gendered terms), because none of those terms feel quite right to either of us at the moment. I hope one day we’ll figure it out and I won’t have to constantly be rephrasing my words in my head to say everything in a way that doesn’t involve gender. I prefer gender to not be a big deal in my conversations and interactions, but treating it like some taboo elephant in the room isn’t very fun either.


  2. KingRoy

    I totally relate to what you wrote. My girlfriend texted me this morning: “Good morning my handsome girl”
    She knows how much it means to me when she puts those two together – “handsome” and “girl”…. because it supports all of me and allows me to feel whatever it is I’m feeling, without her assuming or labeling anything outside of what I’ve stated I like to hear. Also she knows that I’m not fully comfortable being fully masculine or feminine, and saying little things like this really help to support me in that.
    ::shrug:: just meant to say that I get it. And the combination thing can be so powerful and important.


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