Last Night
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Last night, my mom referred to me in conversation as her “man daughter”. I don’t know if I should feel relieved and grateful that she finally acknowledged my masculinity, or frustrated and embarrassed that she can’t just call me her son.
What’s your experience?
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March 27th, 2012 at 2:11 pm |
I’ve started referring to myself as “daughterson”. It allows them to hold on to the concept of their daughter, which would understandibly be a very hard thing to let go, but it gives me the satisfaction of being seen as part son part daughter. Even if I don’t mentally feel like a daughter, I want to be true to my biological self too. So I chose the label Daughterson to convey my bothness. I kind of like the sound of Man-daughter.
Although it’s different if you don’t choose the label for yourself, I guess.
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March 27th, 2012 at 6:04 pm |
I hear you. Its so hard to know how to react to those kinds of half-accepting comments. Its sometimes appealing to try to just be a “oh, I’ll take what I can get, its all good, I’m going to be all cool and relaxed about this.” But underneath the halfway nature of it can be frustrating, like you’re being tantalized with a taste of the acceptance that they might never fully give.
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