Last Night

Someone wrote…

Last night, my mom referred to me in conversation as her “man daughter”. I don’t know if I should feel relieved and grateful that she finally acknowledged my masculinity, or frustrated and embarrassed that she can’t just call me her son.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 27th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Last Night”

  1. Tree

    I’ve started referring to myself as “daughterson”. It allows them to hold on to the concept of their daughter, which would understandibly be a very hard thing to let go, but it gives me the satisfaction of being seen as part son part daughter. Even if I don’t mentally feel like a daughter, I want to be true to my biological self too. So I chose the label Daughterson to convey my bothness. I kind of like the sound of Man-daughter.

    Although it’s different if you don’t choose the label for yourself, I guess.

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  2. Lane

    I hear you. Its so hard to know how to react to those kinds of half-accepting comments. Its sometimes appealing to try to just be a “oh, I’ll take what I can get, its all good, I’m going to be all cool and relaxed about this.” But underneath the halfway nature of it can be frustrating, like you’re being tantalized with a taste of the acceptance that they might never fully give.

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