Someone wrote…

When I told my mom I was going to participate in a Trans* march at Pride, all she could say was “march pretty” and I realized how often as a female bodied individual I have been instructed to be “pretty.” Being gender queer, for me, means the freedom to be something other than pretty.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on November 1st, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “March”

  1. Anonymous

    That is awesome! I was also dfab, and I used to loathe getting “pretty” attached to me constantly by others. For me though, I have found that I don’t actually mind being pretty or being perceived as pretty; It was the underlying assumption that I was female which bothered me. I guess it’s all about the freedom to hang on to what makes you comfortable and also the freedom to break out of what doesn’t :)


  2. Sasha

    I think everyone (not just genderqueer folks) should have the freedom to be as pretty as they want to be and it is messed up how half the people are supposed to be pretty and the other half is not.


  3. Cat

    You bet! Even cisgendered females should know that they don’t have to be “pretty” if they don’t want to. Have fun at the march!


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