You can call me… My name, Andrea, or my nickname “Dre.” Or any nickname you make up for me! I prefer words that keep it gender-neutral, and don’t really like being pigeon-holed into female-oriented gender boxes. (For example, I don’t really like when people say, “Hey girl,” and *especially* don’t like when people say, “Hey lady.” It just doesn’t resonate with how I feel inside). So, I love it when people refer to me as a “girlboy,” a spirit, a friend, a person, a human, a being, a soul, a kid, “kiddo,” “buddy” and any other pet name like “sweetie,” for example. (By the way, my nieces call me “Aunt/Uncle Andrea” and I freakin’ LOVE it!!)
I identify as… Gender is truly like a snowflake, and each individual person is unique. I personally identify as genderqueer, which for me means that I do not feel like I fit into either of the two gender binary categories. I feel in-between, in my own beautiful, genderless and blurry area. And I love it. I love to play with it, which often corresponds to what I wear. I wrote a short poem about it, in fact. Here it goes:
i’m a gender chameleon
it depends on how i’m feelin’
and the threads of fabric that i sport
it’s all drag
it’s all dress
take the clothes off
As far as third-person pronouns go… I know it might take getting used to, but I really prefer the gender-neutral pronouns “they/them/their” when people are speaking about me. It just feels like home. I actually *just* started asking friends and family to do this at the beginning of this year, in fact!! And every time I hear a new or old friend refer to me in this way, it seriously makes my heart swell.
I’m attracted to… I don’t have a “type” — I am just attracted to a person’s essence, and have experienced a mutual attraction with a limitless spectrum of genders and identifications: from self-identified femmes, genderqueers and transmen, to queer cismales, too. (That’s why I’m hella queer!) ;)
For me, it’s about energy and chemistry more than anything else.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Well, I aim to bring a lot of creative love, inspiration and positive energy to this world… so I’d hope they would speak to that, moreso than my gender identity.
I want people to understand… That this has been a journey of self-discovery for me, and that it’s been a long road of unlearning. Some people have this mentality that I’m somehow trying to draw attention to myself, or make things harder for them, by asking them to refer to me differently than has been ingrained in them to do. It’s not about that. It’s about reclaiming something that I’ve honestly felt since I was a child. And in the long run, my hope is that by empowering myself, I can empower others around me. My other hope is that along the way, I can open other people’s minds about gender too. :)
I’m an earth-lovin’, moon-followin’, sustainability-promotin’, social-justice fightin’, queer and genderqueer spoken-word poet/rapper/artist/photographer who is trying to bring some love and positivity to this world. :)
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