Profile: Rusty

You can call me… Rusty.

I identify as… female and genderqueer.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer “he” and “him” and “his,” but consider it a hassle to remind people all the time. Most people call me by feminine ones. If you ask me, I will tell you to call me by whichever gender pronouns you think fit, to test you. But it makes me sooo happy to hear a few of my friends greet me with “buddy” or “bro,” etc, or refer to me as “he.” Just don’t call me “miss” or “ma’am!”

I’m attracted to… punks! Male feminists make my heart ache. Compassion. “Good” dancers, consent, hip hop. Playful eyes and desensitized eyes. Mostly a resonance of spirit, or perhaps an illusion of that resonance. I think my attraction to female-bodied people has been buried by years of homophobic affection, which I hope to get over.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be impressed? I don’t tend to think anyone thinks about me :)

I want people to understand… that it’s okay to question authority and act against it. It’s trite but important. I want people to be their own idols and consider vulnerability as part of strength.

About Rusty.
I’m a sociology student/wannabe musician who works with a sexual abuse survivor program. I like to make things with my hands, wilderness survival, training to fight, dancing and dressing up fabulously. Full of rage and love.

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Posted by on October 5th, 2012 at 08:00 am

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4 Responses to “Profile: Rusty”

  1. rainbow fish

    You identify as female and genderqueer too? I thought it was just me.


    Emile replied:

    We’re out there! I also ID as both.


  2. Aurora

    I love the idea of identifying as both female and genderqueer. I’ve been wrestling with a good way to acknowledge the maleness in me while still comfortably presenting in a femme way and using female pronouns. Also, kudos on working with the sexual abuse survivors and being a musician – I’ve always wanted to combine the two because I think music is a powerful healing tool.


  3. Rusty

    Thanks for the responses :).

    Yeah, to me female is me having a vagina, less testosterone/more estrogen, boobs and stuff. I don’t mind my body being female, even if I hide it sometimes to feel comfortable. Genderqueer is how I feel about gender as a social construct and how I see myself in the world. Two totally different things, even if it’s hard for people to understand the difference.

    I’ve thought about changing my body to fit my ‘masculine’ personality, but at the end of the day, that’s other people’s idea of gender, not mine.


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