Someone wrote…

I’m 37 years old and it finally clicked for me. I’ve been trying to fit myself into male or female for most of my life. My sex is female but my gender isn’t. But I’m also not a man and don’t want to be. I’m going to have to learn how to get comfortable living in the in between and reading all of your stories and profiles has helped me get where I need to be. So thank you to all of you beautiful, brave souls.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on October 28th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 5 comments »

5 Responses to “Souls”

  1. Elle

    I’m happy that gender identities other than man/woman are starting to gain recognition. I almost fell into the whole, “I’m not a man, so I MUST be a woman, and had better transition as quickly as possible,” trap about five years ago. Thankfully I didn’t do anything that I regret, and I credit that to finding Genderfork and sites/groups like it. Ignorance isn’t bliss, it’s a nightmare.


  2. Sara

    Right there with you. Much love.


  3. C

    I’m not generally a fan of labels, but sometimes they offer us productive and healing ways of looking at the world. The day I realised I could be “femme” and “female bodied” and “other than female” was a damn good one. And it likely would not have come about without spaces like this. So, yes, amen, and thank you.


  4. makalove

    I think I was 37 when it happened for me, too, although it took me another four years (’til last year, that is) to be able to talk about it aloud to anyone.

    I was designated female at birth but never felt female. I’ve run the gamut of gender expression, from trying to pass as male to femme-ing it up, but I have always been most comfortable, most of the time, with androgyny. I don’t identify as in-between, but outside, the binary.

    It’s nice to see somebody else who’s figuring this out at our “ripe old age” ;) since nearly all the genderqueer folks around me in my community are two decades younger than me. That’s okay, but it does make it tough to find commonality.


  5. Anonymous

    I cannot express how wonderful it is to know that there are other individuals going through this, as well. I’m also frightened and inspired that these questionings and grappling over issues of gender don’t end at 30.

    Thanks so much for being here.


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