The Only Time

Someone wrote…

No matter how I attempt to present myself, I always feel like a liar to some degree. Nothing ever seems close enough to my identity to not make me feel deceptive in some way. The only time I feel that I am myself is when I’m not thinking about my gender at all.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on April 24th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “The Only Time”

  1. alison

    I know the feeling. I think sometimes you have to ‘fake it until you make it’. When you are still experimenting with presenting in different ways it is hard not to be self-concious. Just be yourself and push through the discomfort, eventually you will find the right balance. That’s my experience, anyways.


  2. Jesse

    I feel uncomfortable making other people uncomfortable. It’s like walking into a room where two people are having sex. It is embarrassing and makes me want to be in some other place. Not because there is anything wrong with sex, but because I feel like I am intruding on something that should be private. In the case of gender, my gender is a private thing, not a performance piece, and when other people take ownership of the moment, I feel disenfranchised somehow.


  3. MsNomi

    Remember the words of Shakespeare in Hamlet: “This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.”


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