The Possibility of Something More

Someone wrote…

For the last three years, I’ve thought of myself as a gay man. Now I’m confronted with the possibility of it being something more, something else. And the thought of having to confront it, of having to rediscover myself for a second time, and then to share that discovery, scares me half to death.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 26th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 6 comments »

6 Responses to “The Possibility of Something More”

  1. Anna

    This is the position I am in, except I self-id’ed as gay for 20 years instead of just 3… It’s an ongoing challenge to try and sort things out, and half the time I’m scared to death of where the rabbit-hole leads…

    You are not alone. *hugs*

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  2. lunasphere

    I also thought I had found some closure to what was different about me when I came to the conclusion I was bi – but that persistent nagging feeling is still there, and I’m realizing that wasn’t the half of it. This gender stuff feels like a gift and a curse; I just wish I knew what to do about it and where to let it take me.

    In some ways it was easier to just think of myself as a weird or eccentric outsider, but that’s just not cutting it anymore.

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  3. Leaf

    I am in a similar situation as well. Sometimes I feel like I don’t fit anywhere, even among other LGBTA people. What does it even mean to be gay if I don’t feel like a man?

    For now, I try not to worry too much about the exact words I use for myself and take one day of exploration at a time. But whatever we are, we ARE just as normal as everyone else (which is not very much).

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  4. MsNomi

    Why do we need labels? Why do we need to fit in? A wise person once said, “be yourself – everyone else is already taken”. Try thinking of yourself as non-gendered or a third gender. I am a gay man housed in a woman’s body. No one sees me, they only see the house, but I am me nonetheless. You and I are unique, just like everybody else!

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  5. Sammie / Fae

    This was my feeling a year or so ago. You are not alone- and, in my opinion, it has become worth that scare.

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  6. Hodge Podge

    It’s scary, but moments like that make me feel alive. Keep at it, it’s so worth it :)

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