To love me for who I am

Someone wrote…

It frightens me that when I move out and begin my transition, I will eventually lose my father. He’ll disown me; all because I’m not who he expected. I try to be understanding, but it mostly makes me sad. I always wanted him to love me for who I am, because I love him for who he is.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on September 28th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 4 comments »

4 Responses to “To love me for who I am”

  1. Aurora

    My heart goes out to you. :hug:


  2. Adam

    I know that feeling very well, only I’ll lose my spouse if I begin transition. We don’t know what to do right now, she isn’t attracted to women and I refuse to be angry with her about leaving me if I become one. People can only like what they like. The worst part is, is that I’d need her then more than ever. The thought of going it alone is unbearable, and the thought of staying in a body that doesn’t feel like my own is enough to rob me of much hope for the future. I know that sounds pretty dark, but I needed to write it down, sorry if it bummed anyone out.


  3. Anonymous

    I don’t have much good advice for you folks…Other than just to say that hopefully, (likely), one day you will find someone who loves you for who you are…Not just that, but they love who you are. I have found somebody like this…It took a lot of perseverance, but it was all worth it. Here’s hoping you have similar good fortune!


  4. Rachel's Mom

    When my husband and I first found out that our child is genderqueer, we went through many emotions. We had so many questions and didn’t know how to ask them. I started to read a lot on the internet about how to approach our child with questions. Slowly, it became easier to understand who they are and how they feel about who they are.

    My husband did take a lot longer to accept our child’s gender but now he defends them.

    So be true to yourself and be a good, honest, kind and generous person and your father will be proud of you.

    I am not excusing him but please give him time and space.

    May your life be filled with a great love and much joy.


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