Yes I Am

Someone wrote…

Every time I’m at work and a child asks me if I am a boy or a girl, I smile and tell them “Yes, I am.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on March 23rd, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 10 comments »

10 Responses to “Yes I Am”

  1. Ej

    the same thing happens to me all the time at work! isn’t it great? hahahaha


  2. Jesse

    Isn’t it like being asked if you’re black or white? Isn’t it like admitting that there really is a difference, but that you’re both and neither?

    People assume I am one gender. It colours their view of me, it limits my interaction with them. It is a cage they keep me in, in their minds. And that’s a shame, because it prevents me from joining in and participating and collaborating as an equal, as a friend, as a human being.


  3. Brett Blatchley

    EXACTLY!!!! :-)


  4. MattWanderers

    Me too.

    Jesse, it’s exactly like that.


  5. fluffy

    I answer “no.”


  6. Anne

    This reminds me of Andrea Gibson’s poem “Swingset.”


    Kyree replied:

    Yes! Love this!


  7. Kris

    I work in childcare and quite often get asked the same and tend to throw it back at them and ask “well what do you think I am? and Why?” and then will generally agree with them what every they decide (can’t exactly explain genderqueer/androgeny to 3 to 5 year olds)


  8. Tracie

    I had a child at the store asking his dad “is that a daddy or a mommy?” – pointing at me. I just smiled sweetly at her. I think it was more uncomfortable for her dad than it was for me. He didn’t answer the child, though she asked at least 5 times. This is a common occurrence for me. Always has been. I’m right in the middle of the gender line – mind, body, and spirit. I’m me. Born in a female body, but have always felt I was standing on middle ground. It was easier to be me before puberty hit and I started to develop a female shape. For a number of reasons, I chose to have a double mastectomy this December. This has made me feel so much more comfortable in my own skin–for the first time in 25 years. The mirror and my mind’s eye match now. Such a relief on several levels (one of which is the greatly reduced breast cancer risk). Rock on!


  9. tigr

    “Sometimes.” :)


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