Someone wrote…

Once I figured out that there is a big difference between erotic and sexual, everything made perfect sense.

I am a very erotic person, just not all that sexual. Sex is in my head and my being but not necessarily in my bones: it’s more that I love the idea of it rather than actually doing it. But there is a whole surprise-filled grey zone in there, and the degrees of actually wanting to be sexual with another person depends a lot on the erotic configuration, which can be very elusive.

Three cheers to the erotic!

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submitted by debbiee nath, the artist.

“My name is DEBBIE, and I’m transgender. I am different and that makes me stronger. People laugh at me because they think that I am entertainment for them, but this does not make any difference to my personality because I’m born this way, baby!”

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You can call me… either by my given name, Luanna, or my nickname, Phenix (which I prefer).

I identify as… lesbian and queer.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer the feminine pronouns.

I’m attracted to… woman, and I love to associate with people who have brilliant minds.

When people talk about me, I want them to… smile and be glad they know me.

I want people to understand… compassion for our fellow human beings and all living beings.

About Phenix

I am a college student, returning to school after many years. Once I complete my degrees, it is my hope to help homeless youth, in particular, LGBTQ young people.

I am a paralegal by trade.

I am in a healthy, loving relationship.

I try to live my life with a quote from Buddha always in mind: “If you see yourself in others, then whom can you harm?”

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“Kyle and I went through our transitions together. I loved him, he was my friend, he understood a lot of things that I never expected anyone to understand before. Kyle, if you’re still out there, reading this, I want you to know that I’m staying strong for you.”

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Someone wrote…

I’m still not sure, what gender actually is, somehow.. I guess, I get the concept, I just can’t figure out how it applies to me personally. Mostly because my perception of myself changes. Does that mean, that I’m genderfluid? Or am I just not ‘there’ yet? This site really helps. Reading about all of you guys is really nice. But I am still very confused..

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Submitted by Emmett, the model and photographer.

“I took a series of photos within photos, starting out with my core self: a blank slate. The next picture is my frustration with reading. I have extremely severe dyslexia. After that is my confusion with gender, the ever present pressure to choose, and my sadness at the binary.”

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You can call me… Lisa Western.

I identify as… a happy TRANS woman.
It took me a long time to accept that label, and I have now embraced it with all my being!

As far as third-person pronouns go, … she, her.
It’s quite simple really!

I’m attracted to… men. Hairy men especially! Big ones, small ones, straight, gay or trans. It’s the male energy that I am drawn to…
Butch lesbians sometime make my preference spectrum go wibbly wobbly!

When people talk about me, I want them to… ask and never assume.
My job as a Drag Queen confuses people.
My personal music preference for rock confuses people.
My spiritual belief confuses people.
One simple way not to be confused is to ask me!
My lack of hatred about being trans confuses people.

I want people to understand… that not all trans people want to erase their past. That not all trans people want to be pretty little princesses or big strapping butch cowboys! That we are all individuals with our own place on the spectrum of this thing called Life!

About Lisa Western
Lisa Western runs Trans-Mission a (soon to be launched) website aimed at providing the trans community with more than just cold facts, more than just trans flag tat, and more than just opinions. She has also been a professional entertainer for twelve years. In her time, she has run shops, pubs and even worked in a call centre! She is also a Tarot reader and has been known to eat chips!

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“Nineteen year old queer transboy. Almost two months on testosterone.”

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Someone wrote…

Instead of viewing my life based on the loss of my birth family, I have chosen to view my life in terms of my very large (and always growing) LGBTQ family. My chosen family is loving and kind, accepting, nurturing, and always ready to stand up for each other. My family is scattered all over the world, in every walk of life.

I also believe that I have had the freedom I enjoy in my life because of all those who came out before me. We owe those pioneers great thanks. I am out and proud in hopes of making life easier for those who come after me.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submitted by annaliesa, the model.

“I am working in my rooftop urban garden. I love dirt.”

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You can call me… Topher.

I identify as… transgender, genderqueer, and everything in the middle.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m a huge fan of singular “they.”

I’m attracted to… intelligence, sense of humor, and a love of life.

When people talk about me, I want them to… respect my trans* status and not disclose anything to people without my permission. I want to be liked and respected by my peers.

I want people to understand… that I’m the way I am, not because I’m trying to make other peoples’ lives difficult, but because this is who I feel an overwhelming desire to be. I want people to understand that it’s been a long time and a lengthy process of discovering myself, and that I’m still in transit. I may never have a concrete gender identity or presentation, and that’s ok.

About Topher
I’m an art major in my fourth year at university. I play the string bass, and I have a passion for photography.

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Someone wrote…

Gender can be exhausting when you feel like you have to have it turned on all the time as a gender diverse person.

Sometimes I can’t be bothered making myself look feminine even though I feel like androgynous because I’m too lazy to shave. But then I can’t blame anyone else when people don’t see past my male physiology.

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Someone wrote…

The day’s I get “sir’ed” at work are the best.

It generally happens when customers see me from behind, then I turn around and they do a double take and decide that I’m female. An awkward obligatory apology immediately follows. I have the biggest smile on my face and they get even more confused.

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Submitted by danah, the model and photographer.

“I’m a little tired and just snapping photos of myself randomly because I hate doing it, and it has always frightened me. Take that dysphoria!”

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