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Pretty handsome


Someone wrote…

Some days all I want is to feel pretty, but feeling handsome is so much easier, so I settle for that.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 7th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Boy you gonna carry that weight a long time


Submitted by Martin, the model.

“A friend took this photo. I’m a boy from Argentina.”

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Posted by on March 6th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Imani


Imani

You can call me… Imani.

I identify as… gender queer, pan romantic asexual.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … just she, her, them, they. Real lax when it comes to third-person pronouns.

I’m attracted to… strong individuals who can cook like no ones business.

When people talk about me, I want them to… get my personality and my jokes and not focus on preconcieved notions based on my appearance.

I want people to understand… that genders don’t make up who you are, but it’s you who shapes yourself. Because being yourself is more important then being someone else’s expectations. Because when they’re gone, it’s you who must define yourself.

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Posted by on March 6th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Butch/Femme 1902


Submitted by Caitlin.

“My beau and I are trying to win a vintage-inspired photo shoot based on this butch/femme picture from 1902, which we originally found on Genderfork. We could use all the votes we can get and would really appreciate support from the Genderfork community! Thanks!”

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Posted by on March 5th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Hitchhiking


Someone wrote…

You travelin’ alone, girl [sic]?” I get this question, in various forms, from nearly every ride (who identifies me as a female-bodied person) and from nearly every person I converse with about hitchhiking (who identifies me as a female-bodied person).

We live in a fear culture. It keeps us apart from each other. That’s what it’s designed to do. Femmes and female-bodied people live in a fear subculture inside the fear culture. We’re taught to be afraid of everything, because as long as we are, we’re immobilized by that fear. That’s also what it’s designed to do.

I’m not saying that there isn’t some truth to the dangers of a female-bodied person traveling alone. And I am saying that as a genderqueer person (who appears fairly androgynous), it’s less dangerous for me to travel alone than femme-ier folks. But I’m also saying that I will have my freedom. What is it they say in New Hampshire? Live free or die? And I’m certainly not angling to die.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 5th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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brows and boots


Submitted by Simon, the model and photographer.

“What could be more fun than prancing about in my big old chunky docs! Of course I’m still rocking the drag brow, this ain’t no scouse brow.”

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Posted by on March 4th, 2013 at 06:26 pm

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Name: Girl with a Hoop


GirlWithaHoop

You can call me… Girl with a Hoop.

I identify as… myself. I have a male body, but I don’t feel particularly masculine. I dress either ambiguously or feminine. I only wear guy stuff when I really have to. I don’t feel like any of the terminology really suits me. Genderqueer sounds political, gender non-conforming sounds PC, androgynous sounds clinical. Why not just call me human.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I think it’s really sweet when people use feminine pronouns; the masculine ones are like fingers on a chalk board, though I am used to hearing them and won’t begrudge those who use them in reference to me.

I’m attracted to… feminine women who don’t mind a guy who wears more pink than they do.

When people talk about me, I want them to… try to find understanding. I hope that my appearance provokes thought, but ultimately I hope to be judged by my character, not by my dress.

I want people to understand… that there are no absolutes, that the world is not painted black and white.

About Girl with a Hoop
I am a freelance human in New York City. You can often find me in museums, galleries and cafes. You can just as often find me on my bike, summer or winter. New York is a great place to express my gender identity or lack thereof. I have lived in places where I would come to grave bodily harm or death if I dressed like I do here. See my blog at http://girlwithahoop.com.

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Posted by on March 4th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Bits


Someone wrote…

For me the gender binary is 0 (ignore) or 1 (subvert). And I’m constantly flipping my bits …

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 3rd, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Shana


Shana

You can call me… Shana, Shawn, up to you.

I identify as… androgynous, genderqueer, bisexual, polyamorous, pt vagabond, aspiring polymath.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … meh. I really don’t care; my main objective is not to frustrate folk. If you think I’m a he, I’m a he and so on.

In a perfect world, there’d be commonly-accepted andro pronouns, but since there aren’t, I like the no-fuss route.

I’m attracted to… all sorts of folk, but I’m, more often than not, attracted to fellow vagabonds, dorks, music geeks, word nerds, gypsies, and pirates.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Ultimately, it’d be great to not have programmed gender cues become a guide in conversation. I therefore try to stay as neutral as possible.

I want people to understand… I don’t identify with gender, so please try not to be so hasty about putting me into a box. Different strokes, y’feel me?


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Posted by on March 2nd, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Salutation options


Someone wrote…

When did I become uncomfortable picking Miss or Ms. from the list of salutation options in Internet forms? I wish I had a PhD so I could pick Dr. or had a military title like Major or Captain. Anything that does not box me in.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 1st, 2013 at 08:00 am

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