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Posted by Kat on July 17th, 2013 at 10:00 am
Someone wrote…
A few weeks ago, my brother got married. I was the best man. But my toes were painted the same color as the bridesmaid dresses.
What’s your experience?
Reposted from Humans of New York.
“If you could give one piece of advice to a large group of people, what would it be?”
“Be yourself.”
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F(t)EMME recommends…
Schmekel is Queer Jewcore from Brooklyn — 100% Transgender, 100% Jewish! Their music offers a Bar-Mitzvah buffet of punk, klezmer, jazz, rock, and polka influences, while their lyrics combine bawdy humor and critical awareness; encouraging audiences to laugh at butt jokes while deconstructing systems of oppression. Schmekel’s bespectacled transsexual singer-songwriters are guitarist Lucian Kahn and keyboardist Ricky Riot. Bearded bassist Nogga Schwartz yells loudly, and genderqueer drummer Simcha Halpert-Hanson carries two big sticks. “Schmekel” is Yiddish for “little penis.”
Reposted via F yeah, guys in dresses.
“So I gave my friend this dress and told him that if he wears this to the dance on Friday, he will be my hero. So he posted this to Facebook.”
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y’all better quiet down! from reina july on Vimeo.
Pioneer Sylvia Rivera speaks to a crowd in 1973 about STAR.
Sadelle recommends…
“I have never been aware,
What on the outside seems,
But not growing there,
I played a role, not my dreams.
I begged my body to be less of
That to be or what not to be;
Just be something I can love,
Even if only by lovers seen.
So why then do I seem
With tiny little nipple knots, not
On fleshy female breasts and
That thing down there is what?
I am a natural born killer.
That instinct has never died
Time after time being teased
And other reasons cried.
When they think that I am a girly
Boy, and fag or pussy I am called,
I have to beat them all up,
And I beat them one and all.
I fight to end it at the beginning;
The judgment of my heart,
And stop what would surely bleed
My soul forever from the start.
I feel the thoughts of those
Who cannot get in my head.
In the cross-hairs of their sights
Set on seeing me quite dead.
Just because my hair and clothes
Are not in lemming conformation
To their walking talking paper
Cut-out normal expectation?
I have never been aware of,
What on the outside I must seem.
But growing up, I played the role,
By every, and all means.
I wanted to hug and hold hands
And feel what girls and women do.
But I wanted to be a super hero,
And fit in as either too.
Now I know that I am neither,
I play the game no more.
Hormones and chromosomes
Failing at my gender core.
They let me down by the norm,
And denied full compliment
Of what is boy or girl, and left me
Somewhere in the middle bent.”
I just wanted to share this with my siblings. Being somewhere between the ‘normative’ gender binary options can be difficult. Especially when you are young. I wrote this when I was 18 (or thereabouts).
Someone wrote…
My girlfriend has been living as a woman for six or so years now, so her son sees his father as “Poppi”, sort of a cute take on the word “Pop”, as in “Dad”.
So yesterday, my girlfriend’s son showed me a picture of his father “before”. It was a typical family portrait; of the son and his mother flanking the dad in the middle. While I was looking at the picture, my girlfriend’s son said to his “Poppi”…“Yeah, you were handsome. Now you’re pretty”.
What a moment. It was quite poignant and lovely. Her son is such a remarkable and loving young man. He loves his Poppi no matter what.
What’s your experience?
Submitted by Kai Phoenix, the model and photographer.
“Just enjoying how my face has in ways become more masculine since I mentally became clear on who I truly am – a trans* boy. It was like once I accepted this within my self, I slowly started to see my body accept it more too. I am pre everything, but it’s little things like that that make me smile. It’s interesting how our perceptions can alter our appearance.”
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Aubri recommends…
It’s a fantastic webcomic written/drawn by an aromantic, asexual, genderqueer/nonbinary relationship anarchist from the UK. They address many different issues in a comical and humorous way, such as use of singular pronouns and various challenges of being poly. Characters in the webcomic are all people in the Gender and Sexual Minorities (GSM), including polyamorous, transgender, genderqueer, pansexual, asexual, and demisexual individuals. It is a refreshing comic that makes me feel accepted and appreciated. I love reading the comic because it lets me know that there are other people like me out there that deal with similar issues to me and still have a fantastic sense of humor about the joys and challenges of living in a way that is true to yourself.
Submitted by Érico, the model.
“It was carnival when I did this makeup. I wish I could always go out like this!”
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Someone wrote…
I’m 54 and I’ve just noticed that I look androgynous.
I know that sounds like a really special kind of stupid, but it’s true.
Funny, isn’t it. You go through most of your life never stopping to wonder why this happens or you feel that, and then someone says one word and it opens up a whole new perspective on your identity. I’m happy with it, though. And the nice thing about waiting till now to discover it is that I’m old enough to tell people without worrying what they’ll think.
What’s your experience?
Submitted by Rae, the model and photographer.
“I am a bio female and always felt ‘tomboyish’ and didn’t really feel like being feminine or even that female was ME. I recently embraced it and started coming out as genderqueer. I am going through my own struggles, but I have finally accepted myself. I hope others can too.”
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Submitted by Luna Blue, the model.
“Me dressed up (and embracing the opportunity to genderbend) as Buck, a personality of Tara from the TV Series US Of Tara.”
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Someone wrote…
Sometimes, a few days beard growth makes me less dysphoric than the shadow I can’t get rid of.
What’s your experience?
Submitted by Toby Amber, the model and photographer.
“This is the first wig I bought — it’s pretty much exactly like my hair was before it began to fall out. When I first put it on and went out, I didn’t stop grinning for about a day. I was so happy I jumped up and down on my bed like a kid and broke it.”
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