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Profile: Sophia


Sophia

You can call me… Sophia.

I identify as…

1. A woman, and a trans woman if you need to know, though I wish I could forget about both of those and just go with “person.”

2. A femme feminist.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … “she” is good. I have to say I’m pretty embarrassingly binary … by which I mean, proudly binary and proud of my non-binary friends, lovers and allies! (What a comeback!)

I’m attracted to… women, non-binary genders and non-hairy, feminist men. Well, I can deal with hair if everything else is in top shape, but patriarchy kills my attraction instantly.

Despite being femme myself, I do like femme women a lot. I guess I like them just as much as butch and androgynous women, though in a different way.

Now that I live as a woman, it seems a bit harder to find femme women who also happen to be into me, and that’s a little disappointing.

When people talk about me, I want them to… forget about my gender for once! I don’t want to be “the trans person,” I want to be just a normal abnormal person like anyone else. Stop objectifying me by my gender status. (And while we’re at it, I want what every other trans person probably wants: to be treated and accepted as my gender rather than as my gender assigned at birth)

I want people to understand… that they don’t know what being trans means. They should stop assuming stuff.

About Sophia
I started transitioning a bit more than a year ago and, it has been a roller coaster. If we didn’t have calendars, I’d assume I started at least 10 years ago.

I’m also vegan, femme, feminist, polyamorous, an Esperanto speaker, a defender of unschooling and non-coercion in general, a believer in the gift economy, and many other labels.

As for my work, I call myself a writer. I don’t earn much money yet, but it is what I do full time. I try to help my readers become better people and change the world. You can check me out at www.sophiagubb.com.

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Posted by on September 14th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Modern Dandy


Reposted from Sophia Wallace (via The Huffington Post).

“Often misunderstood as superficial, the dandy is rather a space of creative possibility where men and women can perform a persona in ways that reach far beyond the narrow binary constructs of masculine and feminine.”

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Posted by on September 13th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Topman


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Posted by on September 12th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Question: How should I react so that I don’t make things worse ?


aggelos or angel asks…

I keep worrying too much about coming out as male. I’m just a non stereotypical guy.

I’m afraid nobody will take me seriously, my best friend didn’t, and it’s the same with my parents. I get infuriated every time a person doesn’t behave the way I ask them to, even though I’m really patient and answer all their questions. How should I react so that I don’t make things worse ?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on September 12th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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sothis2013


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Posted by on September 11th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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The original tomboy


Reposted from dapperQ (via tomboy/femme style).

“Menswear Movement: New Year, New Hope”

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Posted by on September 10th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Recommendation: Beyond the Binary


quarridors recommends…

WAM! It Yourself

This radio-style program discussed how the media covers nonbinary and nonconforming gender and what we can do to make that coverage better.

Hosted by Avory Faucette of QueerFeminism.com and Radically Queer, it featured guests with expertise in gender-neutral parenting, nonbinary identities, and media coverage of transgender issues, including Arwyn Daemyir, creator of Raising My Boychick; Gunner Scott, Director of the Massachusetts Transgender Political Coalition; Nat Titman, creator of Practical Androgyny and the Nonbinary.org wiki; and Marilyn Roxie, creator of Genderqueer Identities and intern at the Center for Sex & Culture.

A recording of the entire show is available online (MP3).

The guests looked closely at some misunderstandings the media makes and how we can take action to educate and improve coverage. They considered topics including major media coverage of gender-neutral parenting and education in 2011, the media’s refusal to take supermodel Andrej Pejic’s stated identity seriously, and what articles on genderqueer and other identities get right and wrong. They also discussed the best way to cover less familiar gender identities, how journalists can describe gender in a way that is less harmful to nonbinary or questioning individuals, and how blogs and social media are changing the conversation.

Although the majority of guests were from the USA, Nat added a United Kingdom perspective.

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Posted by on September 10th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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The unfeminine


Submitted by aqilah nizar, the photographer. Modeling by Vanessa FitzPatrick.

“Androgynes need clothes too.”

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Posted by on September 9th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Evolution


Someone wrote…

We all know that language is evolving all the time, as evidenced by the fact that the words “twerk” and “selfie” have recently become part of the Oxford English dictionary. So why is it so challenging to get a socially accepted singular non-gendered set of pronouns?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 9th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: Infamous Sphere


Infamous Sphere recommends…

Aquarel portrait of a person with short dark hair, slightly warily looking at the viewer. They are wearing a collared shirt which has thin stripes of white alternating with green, yellow, orange, blue, magenta. The background is mostly yellow with some orange and a bit of magenta. Text in "Wild West" font says "Infamous Sphere Reviews".

A drawing of head and torso of a person lying on the ground, eyes blankly staring up. They have short dark hair with some red in it, and they wear a white, long-sleeved collared shirt with stripes in blue, pink, green, yellow, orange. There are brightly-coloured (mostly yellow, some orange, a bit purple) dots around the face - maybe sweets, or stones, or marbles?
Infamous Sphere Reviews
An internet review show

I’m Infamous Sphere and I’m a movie and television reviewer, who mainly focusses on LGBT movies (and period dramas). I like to look at all kinds of queer cinema, from the oldest, the worst, and the most ignored. I’m not always nice to the movies, but I do review them from a queer, humourous perspective and I try to be fair.

I do a separate series of reviews called “Gender Hipster reviews”. Gender Hipster is an androgynous, genderless person, and xie reviews movies that have anything to do with cross dressing, gender bending and all-round gender f**kery.

I started the reviewing because I love queer cinema (and period drama) and I thought that this was a niche which I felt I knew a bit about. I love the idea that there are always more queer films coming just around the corner, and I love it when I realise I’ve dug up something that not many people know about. I like to tell people about queer history, social history and art history in my reviews, while remaining entertaining.

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Posted by on September 8th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Eat up


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Posted by on September 7th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Softer


Someone wrote…

I feel guilty sometimes for identifying as genderqueer because even though I don’t feel like a woman, I pass as cis almost all the time.

I like to wear makeup all the time, I like dresses and skirts, and the men’s clothing that I wear is “softer” (pastel pink men’s skinny jeans, button up shirts with flowers on them, light pink ties) because I don’t want to be macho-masculine. I also have HUGE breasts and a big booty, so I feel like I can never be androgynous because I’ll never be super skinny.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 7th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Surprise Face


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Posted by on September 6th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Question: Transgender Newbee.


Jules asks…

I have recently come to accept that I’m Transgender. I was born female but I’ve never felt like a girl. I hate that the world sees and accepts me as female, because I know that is just not who I really am. I feel like I’m a fake and I don’t know what to do next… I am female but I identify as male.

I want to come out to a couple friends, but I’m scared out of my mind. I KNOW who I am and what makes me feel true to myself. I live in Orange County, Vermont and I don’t know of any support groups in my area. I feel like I’m alone and don’t know what to do next. I just want to reach out to people who understand and can help me find support.

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on September 6th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Blowing in the wind


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Posted by on September 5th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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If I am not mistaken


Someone wrote…

If I am not mistaken… I think that little kid was staring because they couldn’t figure out if I was a “boy or a girl.”

I’m finally doing something right!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 5th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Not like the other girls


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“BUTCH: Not Like the Other Girls is a photo-based public art exhibition being displayed in transit shelters throughout Vancouver.”

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Posted by on September 4th, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Zack


Zack

You can call me… Zack.

I identify as… an FTM, but more as a third gender. I am looking forward to my top surgery, and I’m not planning on going on T. I legally changed my name, but I have not changed my gender marker yet.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer male pronouns.

I’m attracted to… feminine women. I call myself Queer, not lesbian.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see me for who I am. See me for my personality and don’t worry about me being male or female. That only matters if you want to date me.

I want people to understand… it does not matter whether you are male or female. Understand what is in my heart and my head. Care about people for the good in them, and don’t judge for how they look.

About Zack
I am an operations manager for a manufacturing company, and I also do graphic design on the side. I try to enjoy life, and I love living in sunny Florida.

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Posted by on September 4th, 2013 at 08:00 am

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Out the door


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Posted by on September 3rd, 2013 at 10:00 am

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Receipts


Someone wrote…

I asked my manager to change the name that prints out on customers’ receipts (my given name) to my adopted/gender neutral name today. He asked for confirmation of spelling, and now, I will feel more comfortable presenting/greeting the tables I serve without having to correct them for saying “sir” or “ma’am”. It’s one of the first waitstaff jobs where I have free expression of hairstyle, piercings, appearance, gender (or lack thereof), etc. A great, appreciative feeling!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 3rd, 2013 at 08:00 am

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