I’m Robe Co-Chair for my university’s Choir, and this year I’m using my position to de-gender some of the clothing norms we have in our dress attire standards.
I’m a trans*male genderqueer person, and I remember how awkward it was, when I first joined up, to see the emails with reminders of “men wear ___” or “women wear ___” before concerts and events. So in my emails, I make sure to just write “you can wear ___ on top” or “___ on bottom”. I make my pronouns known, everyone in the Choir knows I’m out, I sing Alto regularly but Tenor 1 in the Men’s Group, and I know for a fact that many people in this group (in this traditionally-conservative Southern university) would defend me to the death, as I would them. It means so much to me that because of their actions and mine, and because of the very public nature of our performances, we’re making a real dent in the latent binarism of the choral and university worlds.
And we look damn good while doing it.
What’s your experience?