Comfort factor
Someone wrote…
I’ve always gravitated toward men’s clothing (especially t-shirts) due to the comfort factor, but after shaving my head for a cancer fundraiser, I’ve been embracing my masculine side a lot more. It confuses the living daylights out of the kids at the museum I work at, and I can’t help but feel proud when they ask “Are you a girl or a boy?” or when they give me complete WTF looks.
What’s your experience?
Posted by Freiya on May 14th, 2013 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 4 comments »
May 15th, 2013 at 9:03 am |
the same happened to me! but i actually had cancer…
i’ve always wanted to shave my head, but never had the courage to… when i HAD to for surgery, i also happened to be in a moment in which i was questioning my gender presentation. at that time, my shaved head kind of disclosed my cancer, which was uncomfortable. but i loved so much having a buzzcut, that i decided to keep it. and it’s awesome because it goes well with everything, “feminine”, “masculine” & mixed clothing!
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owlet replied:
May 15th, 2013 at 9:08 am
i mean, there’s always some genderbending involved – looking girly but with the shortest hair possible, or like a boy or is it a girl or what…?
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May 16th, 2013 at 6:55 am |
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June 26th, 2013 at 1:58 pm |
I honestly find it pretty awesome when people don’t know. I got a couple “Sirs” these past couple of years since I shaved off my mane for medical reason (damned dermatitis). For some reason, however, when my nephew asked the same question, “I can’t tell if you are a boy or a girl,” I didn’t find it amusing, and the happiness lasted only a second. I told him I was both, that some people are born both.
But that is not the whole story. I’m two spirit, but those close to me know very well I am a man in this intersex body, and that’s it. It’s part of my heritage; one he doesn’t understand. Saying this here helped me to put things in perspective. I am still upset, but I am also glad for the opportunity to at least bring up the truth before his parents put crap in his head.
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