Dancing

Someone wrote…

I have to be honest, I’m scared.

I’m a transman, and I recently turned 21 so I’m old enough to go to bars. I love dancing with people, male or female, and I guess I was naive to assume it would all be ok for me. I’ve realized that a lot of straight guys assume I’m a girl when I dance with them, sometimes in a very, let’s say “intimate” way, then comes the moment when they find out I’m a guy (either from me or a friend uses male pronouns).

The last time that occurred nothing serious happened, but the look on the guys face… it made me realize that if I party in the wrong place I could get killed. I really could get killed. But I like partying and I do it responsibly and I’m not trying to “trick” anyone, so why should I be punished for it? I just want to have a good time like anyone else.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 24th, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Dancing”

  1. Anon

    Do you have any gay or trans clubs where you are? The reason I ask is that it is a safe option for dancing. In the area I live (Los Angeles area) there is a nightclub for trans folk. It is not about punishment at all. It is about the reality that people that haven’t experienced what it is like to be transgender will never understand us. Some believe being trans is a choice, even though we know that it isn’t. Please be careful out there.

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  2. Clare

    Its already been said – bad as it is, start thinking about yr security and try going out in groups as well. Good luck!!

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  3. Anonymous

    “It is about the reality that people that haven’t experienced what it is like to be transgender will never understand us.” This, but we can try and accept :)

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