Someone wrote…

I love dressing like a tomboy, but I have the body of a girl with largish breasts that intrude on my tomboy loving ways. I love my body, but love my tomboy ways, I feel like I am the epitome of confused.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on May 22nd, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 5 comments »

5 Responses to “Epitome”

  1. Anonymous

    My experience is that breasts are a lot easier to disguise than hips. That is, if you want to disguise them at all.

    Confused… good emotion to remind us that we’re alive, human, and everything that makes us wonderful. Hold on to being you–tomboy, largish breasts, etc… Regardless of what you love/hate (and everything in between) about yourself… You are you; and that is beautiful.


  2. jay

    Remember you identify you. Lots more to you than breasts.


  3. S

    I sympathise – for 20 years my breasts have been too big to fit my mental ideas of myself, and (almost) all the advice on disguising them seems to be aimed at small-breasted people.

    I wear waistcoats (vests in US English) a lot and find they help but don’t get rid of the problem.


  4. AJ

    I understand your problem, my breasts aren’t too large but I compress them with a sports bra and my hips are my only hinderance. They make it hard to find good clothing that fits just right. Problem: Southern foods, but always good.


    Summer replied:

    I’ve always been a tomboy, and was even a sprinter for a while until things started busting out all over in junior high. I sympathize with the physical challenges: I love to run and jump and be athletic, but it can be hard to find adequate underpinnings for those pursuits. These days there are some great bra companies out there that cater to full-figured persons–they’re often pricy, but worth the investment. Good sports bras are helpful, and I personally like the look and feel of a minimizer bra, which can maintain one’s shapeliness but also reminds it of its place.

    And, though it may sound odd, corsets and bodices can be remarkably liberating in tomboyish pursuits (and feel super sexy paired with trousers and some sturdy boots.) Like any other garment, it’s a matter of getting the right fit and the right design for your needs.

    I’m glad to hear you say you love your body! Although our attributes may sometimes “get in the way,” there need not be anything discordant about being a tomboy who rocks a curvaceous feminine shape. If that is who you are, then just keep on loving it.


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