Long paved roads

Someone wrote…

I can avoid female gendered pronouns. I can take long paved roads in my sentence and you won’t even notice it. But when I can’t, I die a little.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on November 26th, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Long paved roads”

  1. Anonymous

    I do this too and you describe it so perfectly. There are seriously chills running up by back!


  2. Skye

    Over the past few months, pronouns have been avoided most of the time. Even cashiers and waitstaff at restaurants have stopped calling me “miss”. However, on the rare occasion that a female pronouns slips out of somebody’s lips, IT HURTS!


  3. R

    I definitely know that experience, but I never have felt “required” to use a gendered pronoun for myself or anyone that didn’t want to be gendered (I use singular They instead) I just recently had a visit from my out-of-state parents and they kept throwing around “daughter” and “she” in public while I clearly do not resemble one. It feels like ice picks trying to slowly chip away at my identity.


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