I often get mistaken as cis-gendered because my presentation is feminine, sometimes border-line andro, but mostly feminine.
I’ve tried to convince myself over and over again that having a vagina and presenting as feminine makes me cisgendered, and so I should identify as a woman. But I find when I do that, it’s like trying to fit into an outfit that looks good on a mannequin. The mannequin looks like you…the outfit should fit you…but something’s off. Very off. It’s subtle enough that maybe you could wear it, and people won’t notice. But you notice. And it’s all you can think about.
What’s your experience?