More complex

Someone wrote…

I consider myself to be androgynous and pansexual and it’s saddening how few understand what this means. I’m not promiscuous or confused or a sex addict. I just don’t believe in binaries. People are more complex than two checkboxes and it doesn’t suit humanity to try to place each other under these constraints.

I fall in love with people for their personalities, their intelligence, their worldviews. What they have between their legs should not be a defining deal breaker if you genuinely love someone, and that, is why I am this way.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 26th, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “More complex”

  1. Orselina

    Are you me?

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    Kristian replied:

    Ditto!

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  2. Landon

    I, too, would consider myself pansexual, but I don’t feel entirely comfortable with your last two sentences there.
    “I fall in love with people for their personalities, their intelligence, their worldviews.”
    So does mostly everyone else, this is not a pansexual-specific trait, right? If it was, straight girls would have no criteria for attraction other than [must be a guy].
    “What they have between their legs should not be a defining deal breaker if you genuinely love someone…”
    Now, this sentence seems to assume that orientation is either completely based on genitals regardless of gender, or completely excludes trans people. Straight guys and gay women can be attracted to a trans woman even if she hasn’t had bottom surgery, straight girls and gay men can be attracted to a trans man who hasn’t had bottom surgery. So, again, “what they have between their legs” not being a “defining deal breaker” is also not a pansexual-specific trait.

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