Someone wrote…

I don’t know what I am anymore. If I’m non-binary and unhappy with both my options, what do I do? One set of gendered pronouns bothers me more than another but either way, neither of them fit me.

How do I handle body dysphoria and social anxiety around gender when I’m neither/nor?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on April 8th, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “neither/nor”

  1. radical/rebel

    1. unicorns
    2. books: gender outlaw by kate bornstein; gender outlaws the next generation edited by kate bornstein and s. bear bergman; persistence: all ways butch and femme edited by ivan coyote and zena sharman; trans liberation by leslie feinberg; from the inside out: radical gender transformation FTM and beyond edited by morty diamond; pomosexuals: challenging assumptions about gender and sexuality edited by carol queen and lawrence schimel; nobody passes: rejecting the rules of gender and conformity edited by mattilda bernstein sycamore
    3. tumblrs:,
    4. neither/nor is a space. welcome to it. stay as long as you want.


    radical/rebel replied:

    5. gender-neutral pronouns: they/them/theirs, ze/hir, your name, co, vi, vim, vir, etc.


  2. Rian

    I happen to feel the same. :/
    Thanks radical/rebel for the hints!


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