Part of a team

Someone wrote…

I think labels are still useful. Before I started calling myself an “MTF butch” or a “butch woman”, I felt like an insignificant outlier society doesn’t even care enough about to label, which made me feel completely alone. While I agree we are all unique individuals and shouldn’t limit ourselves by putting ourselves in boxes, it’s nice to feel like you’re part of a team: like the way you feel and the challenges you face are shared by others in the world.

Labels can separate people, but used appropriately, they also have the power to bring people together.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on November 28th, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 4 comments »

4 Responses to “Part of a team”

  1. german dude

    you said that so nice…and so fucking true.
    I am so afraid of boxes since I (faab) climbed out of my old one. But since I refuse to put myself into the ftm-box too fast, I feel a lot more misunderstood, alone and invisible.

    I don`t know if I can live outside the society all my life. Takes too much energy…I WANT to fit in! But right now I don`t want to be trapped again in a box. I want to find the sense in those categories like you. I really want to see the point in them! But I can`t and that makes me angry.


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  3. S.

    I used to want to fit in with some segment of the trans umbrella, but at the end of the day, I AM alone! My personality is so varied. My gender experiences are very personal, and unique. I’m not concerned with finding a group to fit into. “Where do I belong?” I belong with people who accept me and love me exactly as I am. Those people aren’t necessarily under the trans umbrella… they come from all walks of life. But when you get back to the basics, you realize that we’re all just humans on this Earth, and that regardless of the way we identify, we should treat each other with love and respect. In my opinion anyway.


  4. Ryan

    Labels are useful. There are sometimes valid things you can say about an entire group of people, and it’s useful to refer to that group by a label. Of course, very often things are said about entire groups of people that aren’t valid or true. And then there’s the trap of assuming every person within an entire group of people is identical, which is ridiculous.


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