Release and Community

Someone wrote…

I feel so angry these days that I can’t even see straight. I’ve come out to everyone I know and still I feel like I have to push away my gender and expression and be someone that I’m expected to be. At work I’m weird and awkward, at home I’m Father and Husband. Alone however, I’m everything all wrapped in one very confusing, very ornate wrapping that not even I know how to unwrap. When you oppress this much confusion, it only cause friction. I need release, I need community.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on February 17th, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Release and Community”

  1. Jack

    Welcome to our community! Please don’t feel alone. I don’t know about you, but one of the problems I find about unwrapping my own special ornateness, is the feeling that whatever I do has to be final. It feels so important not to make a mistake, so all those around you won’t be confused and scared. But the nature of our particular journey is that often we don’t know if we want a certain reality until we try it on. So sometimes we unwrap only to wrap it again, either fully or partially, and!!! So join me in taking baby steps toward revealing ourselves in all our wonderful, confusing, complicated and creative glory:D


  2. Anonymous

    FWIW, I can relate. I’m out to everyone and married to a supportive spouse, who is currently pregnant with our first child. My transition is on hold right now for financial reasons with the impending expenses of childcare and everything. So I can relate to being in a weird, awkward and really confusing place. It sucks but I try to stay positive and keep my head above ground cause anger doesn’t help anything and only makes the situation worse.


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