Someone wrote…

I’m transitioning from female to male, but I’m extremely femme and androgynous. So many people, including those in the trans community, have tried to discredit my identity. At first I was angry, but now I feel bad for them.

I love who I am — it’s sad they can’t respect that.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on August 28th, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Respect”

  1. radical/rebel

    all power to the femme, genderqueer, non-binary, androgynous, unicorn, glittery trans people!

    never fall for other people’s limited definitions of what you can be.

    radical genders, radical liberation,


  2. Callista

    Feminine, androgynous guys are still guys. I bet you there are cis guys who are having the same problem… they’re feminine and androgynous and everybody’s telling them they aren’t “real men” for some reason. At least you’re not alone. But it still sounds frustrating.

    Personally, I want to dump gender altogether, but everybody still insists on calling me female. They see my feminine traits and just assume. What bugs me is that it seems to be accepted that if I want to be androgynous I have to drop every indication of gender. It’s like I can’t do crochet because it’s too feminine, even if I don’t do it because it’s feminine and would still do it if I happened to have a penis.

    Maybe I’ll just call myself gender-irrelevant and leave it at that!


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