The Handle

Someone wrote…

In a GSA meeting recently, I held up a mug by the handle and asked, “What am I holding?” Only one person accurately replied–“the handle” instead of simply “the mug”.
Labels are like mug handles; they’re part of our identities like a handle is part of a mug, and are useful for picking them up, examining them, turning them around. It’s nice to have a handle on your mug. But they aren’t the entirety of our identities–if you drop the mug and the handle breaks off, you can pick it up separately, after all. They are a small part of a much larger whole. I think it’s a good idea to remember that.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 6th, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “The Handle”

  1. tigr

    I think this is a great metaphor:)

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  2. Thomas

    Well articulated! Part of, yet separate from. Great way to explain it.

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  3. MxtrMeike13

    Love this, hope you don’t mind if I steal this.

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