The Line
Para wrote…
Where is the line between wanting to be treated as a man, and wanting to be treated with the respect that men receive? As a woman, and as someone beautiful? Wanting not to have a gender, and wanting not to be confined by them?
I don’t know what gender is, and I don’t know how to ask without being rude, but I think I need to know….
What’s your experience?
Posted by Freiya on April 24th, 2013 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice One comment »
April 29th, 2013 at 1:44 am |
How about the line of “do I wear a bra now that I have big enough breasts, or do I keep on smashing those sore babes under tight shirts so as to avoid any idea that I’m different from the other guys at work”? – mtf transitioner
It’s one thing to be confused, and another to be frustrated. I’m angry over being male, but doing something about it. I know the lines out there, and I cross them as much as possible, to get the people ready for my OUT. It’s like either running into the cold lake and diving under, or walking slowly into it and get used to the cold water. I think it would be a lot safer for me to walk slowly and make little splashes as I go, before the dive.
As in your case, my opinion is you are both frustrated and confused.
What was/is your sex marker at birth? Take it from there, accept how you were born, and take control of your destiny. Change, create illusion or both. How others will treat you is 50/50. Between your confidence and their fear/confusion (maybe even frustration).
I’d LOVE to be treated like a lady, but I am clearly not a lady, at least, not yet – But I know it will happen someday.
In the issue of no gender or genderblending, it will never be easy in our societies. It’s always one or the other, but keep on being YOU. Someday it might be normal for some people to express themselves without a clearly defined gender, and you could have helped pioneer that freedom.
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