The times

Someone wrote…

Sometimes I can see the beauty in my androgynous, gender non-conforming body. Other times, not so much. There are times when I take pride in the utility of my body- its sinuous strength, dexterity, ability to recovery quickly from injury. Then there are the times when all I see is a weak lump of flesh in an amorphous blob.
I know I’m not alone in feeling like this, so I was hoping others had suggestions on how to love, or at least accept, my queer body. And maybe how to take enough pride in it that others can see that it’s pretty cool, too.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 17th, 2013 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “The times”

  1. me who don't speak english that well orz

    Oh. That happens with me too. But when I feel frustrated about my body or gender or anything else, I understand that I need a cheer up. It may not last long, but it definitely helps me to take one more step to accepting myself, and next time when I would think about it, it won’t be so frustrating anymore. Then I usually search for photos of androgynous/genderqueer/whatever people, read about them – articles, forums, blogs. (Well, this site is really good and fulfilling all my needs.) I watch films and I read books, too (fiction, not documentary, eh. Somehow it’s gross for me to think about that kind os documentary). In short, I try to find people who feel/think the same way I feel, to find some kind of support, anything that screams “you are you and it’s okay, you are not alone, everyone has the right to be whatever they want to be and no one can blame them for it”. I try to accept myself, but I try to accept other people as well, to accept the whole concept of “genderqueerness”. Maybe even to wide my definition of beauty a little, to erase some of my stereotypes, too. And it’s you know, amazing when I look at some photography, for example, a plump woman dressed like man – and my first though will be “Uh, I am not very fond of her,” but my second thought will be “But it’s brave of her to express herself that way. If she thinks she is magnificent, then I think she is magnificent too”. And then you start to think that maybe, just maybe, this can apply to everyone, including you. That maybe, someday, someone will have the similiar thought about you on their mind. That you can do this, you can accept yourself and make others accept you. And thoughts like these are always a start of something great. Hope this helps, even if a little bit.

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    tigr replied:

    Heyhey, just wanted to say (and this goes for everyone out there!), if you come across something which you think would fit into Genderfork, please tell us about it, we’re always looking for submissions, whether it’s a photo, a video clip, a movie, or anything else, really! And out of personal interest I’d love to hear what films and books with androgynous/genderqueer characters you’ve come across so far:)

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    anon from above replied:

    Ow, thank you! But actually, since I am not a native English speaker and I am not browsing gender-related sites in this language that much, I don’t think I have much to offer… Genderfork is probably the first English resource I have stumbled upon, but I find it quite interesting and community is really friendly :) (Though I started using computer since when I was 5 years old and I have “felt strange” for a really long while, but only recently I found out that it is, how it called and that there are people with the same problems… so I am still exploring this part of Internet.)

    What about books and films… I usually watch films about transgender girls, and some of films which come to mind are “Just One of the Guys” (1985), “Boys Don’t Cry” (1993), “XXY” (2007), (this one is about a guy) “Last Summer of La Boyita” (2009), “Tomboy” (2011). There are not a lot of films about genderqueers (and in 70% of cases characters are normal people who are just crossdressing for whatever purpose). And guess it’s even worse for books, but still, there are some – “Gentlemen and Players” by Joahn Harris, “The Wasp Factory” by Ian Banks, “Being Emily” by Rachel Gold (this one is about a guy too).

    But I don’t give up. I was amused that even wikipedia has a quite long list of these things. (Transgender/transsexual category is not so big yet, but I am kind of surprised how they improved their LGBT-related media section this summer…) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Transgender_and_transsexual-related_media

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