Once I figured out that there is a big difference between erotic and sexual, everything made perfect sense.
I am a very erotic person, just not all that sexual. Sex is in my head and my being but not necessarily in my bones: it’s more that I love the idea of it rather than actually doing it. But there is a whole surprise-filled grey zone in there, and the degrees of actually wanting to be sexual with another person depends a lot on the erotic configuration, which can be very elusive.
Three cheers to the erotic!
What’s your experience?