I’m female-assigned and genderqueer. I try to present in a tomboyish/androgynous kind of way most of the time, but it never seems to work.
I can go out wearing a binder and a scowl and hetero men still assume I must be interested in having sex with them. I could have top surgery and bottom surgery and go on hormones for twenty years and people would still see my broad hips and delicate face and think, “A female! Ready to mate!”
It’s not that I even mind being female-bodied, or even being feminine some of the time; it’s the reaction that these things get from others that’s so toxic.
What’s your experience?