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Profile: Tori


You can call me… Victoria. Or Tori – trying to get that to stick as a nickname.

I identify as… a transgendered lesbian trying to transcend the male body I have lived in for 50+ years.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I understand people will use the male pronouns when they see me most of the time because of my appearance. But I much prefer the feminine pronouns here on the net, or when I’m out in public dressed as my preferred gender.

I’m attracted to… Women. I am hopelessly enamored of women and everything they stand for and embody.

When people talk about me, I want them to… …hopefully recognize there is so much more to me than the apparently male exterior that circumstance has forced me to present for most of my life.

I want people to understand… …that I just want to be the me that I have always known that I am. And hope folks will be patient with me while I try to get all this stuff figured out. In turn, I’ll do my best to extend the same courtesy to everyone.

About Victoria. Or Tori – trying to get that to stick as a nickname.
I’m a fifty-something geek-girl (comics, Star Trek, sci-fi) who is working on making her exterior appearance match what’s inside. And if I can meet a nice girl somehwere along the line and settle-down, that’d be okay.

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Posted by on May 16th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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A Beanie and a Smile


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Recommendation: Miss Gender


Ashley recommends…

A person in orange socks, white-red striped trousers, an orange shirt and brown hair holds a rainbow-colored umbrella and is swept by the wind.

Miss Gender
podcast

My friend Jay and I started a video podcast called Miss Gender about my transition (I’m MtF). I’ve been contemplating my gender identity since I was 13 or 14 and, now in my 30s, I’ve started to get my head around the idea that I’m trans.

On the show we talk about things like how I came to realize I’m trans, coming out to my parents and other family, and mulling over how to handle things at work.

Our show has both a video feed (iTunes or not) and an audio feed (iTunes or not).

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Posted by on May 14th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Shy


“I did a thing that was big for me today! I’ve walked past that sephora for months, too shy and anxious to go in. But I’ve always wanted to! Today, finally, I did. The idea of wearing makeup scares me as someone who people assume is male. But even after leaving I decided to keep it on.”

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Posted by on May 13th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Dignity


Someone wrote…

Every person is worthy. Every person deserves to be treated with dignity and compassion. Every person needs to have love in their lives. To be loved. To love someone.

We are born with dignity. We should demand to be treated with dignity and never give it away to anyone or to any thing. Especially not to those sad and spiritually empty people who would like to pull us down into the despair that they must surely suffer from. They hate themselves and turn that hate toward others in an effort to elevate their fragile egos.

They do not know what love is and that has to be the saddest thing in the world. We are all worthy.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 13th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Inspired by Nature


“Trying to ball on a budget.”

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Posted by on May 12th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Dann


You can call me… Dann

I identify as… Transboy. Hate it though i would like more cisguy. (i’m an intersex) just ignore it.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He. Him. His

I’m attracted to… Girls! Duh.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Hmm anything. It doesn’t matter

I want people to understand… That transpeople aren’t freaks!

About Dann
I love a friend so much, she is everything to me. I so adore video games, sports, lifting weights. I’m 17 years old, love to read books. I also play hide and seek with my cousins lol. Last year in High school.

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Posted by on May 12th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Being my own person


Someone wrote…

I have always felt like being “me” was what really defined me, way more than being a “girl” or having tits and vagina. I really love my body and wouldn’t change it for anything, but I have always felt uncomfortable in a dress or a skirt, almost as if I were in drag, while I really love to play with masculine fashion (shaved head, Doc Martens, male perfume if any).

I feel different from other girls, and I wouldn’t say that being “a woman” has a huge impact on my identity – I try to be my own person and that’s it… But at the same time, to leave behind that label in my head feels a bit like cheating on feminism: we/they have fought so hard to say “you don’t need to be feminine to be a woman” that telling everyone I’m genderqueer or anything like that makes me feel as if I’m letting “them” exclude me from “my” gender because I don’t pass some kind of “girl test”… I’m so confused!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 11th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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What to Wear?


Nathan Thompson’s approach to and musings about clothing choices. An accompanying blog post for the video.


Posted by on May 10th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Interview Outfit


“Had an interview this morning.”

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Posted by on May 9th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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You Decide


Someone wrote…

For my entire life, I have viewed myself as a unique individual. I have a unique compound name, a unique androgynous style of dress, and a unique personality.

So it has always bothered my when adults make thoughtless comments like, “Do you have a boyfriend?” “You must love shopping, right?” and even, “What a lovely young lady.” Can’t these people see past all of the stereotypes about gender and just speak to me as an individual?

There is one simple question that I love to be asked more than any other, and that is, “Are you a girl or a boy?” I’m often asked this by younger children. And each time it makes me happy that there are people who realize that my long hair and breasts don’t actually determine my gender.

So to this question of “Are you a girl or a boy?” I smile and reply, “You decide.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 9th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Double Sided


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Posted by on May 8th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Genim/Stiles


Genim

You can call me… Genim or Stiles

I identify as… Genderfluid
Usually its a they/them/their thing, but usually it is she/her thing, and sometimes it is a he/his thing.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She. If I wish to be called a he or they, I will say otherwise. PLEASE don’t call me an “it”.

I’m attracted to… No one sexually! I am a straight asexual, so I like men, but I don’t want sex.

When people talk about me, I want them to… this may sound self concieted, but I wish that people talked about how good I am at things. I am seeked out for help or for advice, or talked about positively, and I wish that that is something that happens.

I want people to understand… That I’m very sensitive. Some times of the day I’m male, and some times I am female. I mostly am female.

About Genim or Stiles
I’m Genim and I think that space is really rad. Im a huge science and chemistry nerd. I love tons of shows (Teen Wolf, Hannibal, Doctor Who, Sherlock BBC, Bates Motel, Supernatural, Psych, Mythbusters, and a lot more) and I love books and comics.

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Posted by on May 8th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Smirking


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Posted by on May 7th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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The making of my day


Someone wrote…

The other day I was talking to one of my teachers from last year.
She said, “When you first came in to my class, I identified you as a female. But then, for the next several weeks, until I found out that you identify as genderqueer and stopped trying to figure it out, I found myself constantly questioning whether you were, in fact, male or female. Some days I was convinced you were male and other’s not sure and others I went back to female. Good job.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 7th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Pink Curls


“Looking and feeling cute.”

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Posted by on May 6th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Question: shaving legs


Rusty asks…

I consider myself female but agender, and I don’t like shaving my legs because it brings up a lot of negative memories about my body being gendered and objectified. I also don’t like having hairy legs because I get publicly ridiculed and hairy legs remind me of the same thing shaved legs do.

Does anyone else have this issue? I’m kind of obsessed and constantly uncomfortable.

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on May 6th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Winged


A portrait of Justin Winston posted from a photo collection by Frederic Nauczyciel of voguers in Baltimore, MD.


Posted by on May 5th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Love/Hate


Someone wrote…

I have a love/hate relationship with my DD breasts. Some days I adore the curviness of my figure, the softness of the skin and yearn to be touched. Other days I feel off-balanced, disproportionate and would rather no one touched them. I Honestly can’t imagine myself as male or female. But sometimes I wish that weren’t the case.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 5th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Whole lot of Queer


“Derek hale pin, jean jacket, and a whole lot of queer.”

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Posted by on May 4th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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