Reposted from The Un-feminine Ascetic.

Someone wrote…

I’m a gender fluid person and I don’t shave my legs.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

Gender exploration can be so bittersweet. I’ve got the most unquestionably feminine outfit on that I’ve tried yet. I look completely badass in it and I love it. But then I wish I felt free enough to dress like this every day and it’s devastating that I don’t.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

You don’t really have to understand math to know why this sucks:

My statistics homework recently asked this multiple choice question:

“Does the given procedure result in a binomial distribution?: Recording the genders of 150 people in a statistics class”

Answers:
A. Yes
C. No, because there are more than two possible outcomes.
(B and D don’t matter)

The question is, do I go against the whole of who I am and answer A “correctly,” or do I answer C, forfeiting a good grade, and knowing that the teacher won’t pick up on the point?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submitted by Micah, the model.

“Hi!!! I just got top surgery about 5 days ago as a non-binary faab person and I don’t plan on taking testosterone. I had a hard time finding people with similar experiences so now I’m motivated to make my trans* body and experience more visible to others.”

Reposted from For the love of boyish girls.

“Orlando.”

Ansa wrote…

I have no idea. I’m sometimes a girl, sometimes a guy. Definitely one of those. Not even day to day change, just situations I want to be recognized as a specific gender. I want my boobs to go away most of the time, then rare moments where I’m okay with these lumps of fat. I want to quit being instantly recognized as female.

I identify as genderfluid but have no idea what to do with my pronouns because I want male or female but not sure what times and it’s frustrating and I don’t quite know what to do with it. Gender is awesome as a spectrum, but figuring it out sucks sometimes.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from Non-Binary support blog.

“This picture is so rad.”

Submitted by Claude Vallee, the photographer.

“This is the best birthday card ever. Blue box with shiny pink ribbon : that is me! Even the wishes (inside and outside) are genderless (and that is a feat in French!). Officially from my mom, chosen by my sister and mother. Birthday was a while ago and I can’t stop being happy about it! ”

Someone wrote…

I was buying a phone the other day, with two sales people (one training) helping to set it up. The woman kept saying “he” when referring to me, while the boy said “she.” It was apparent that the woman had realized that I “wasn’t” male, but had kept calling me “he” because she didn’t want to admits she was wrong. It was also apparent that the boy thought he was doing me a favor by trying to subtly pass hints to his manager that I was “female.”

I just find it funny that people try so hard to think about gender, yet they’re spending so much time trying to figure out whether I’m male or female that they don’t try to find out whether I’m a girl or a boy, never mind whether I’m something else.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

I realized that I can change my gender presentation simply by varying my voice. That is powerful.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

I do not seek or expect perfection in other people, because I do not want other people to seek or expect perfection in me. I’m also a mess when it comes to even the idea of relationships.

I recently met someone that I really like. I mean REALLY LIKE. So, wanting so very much to truly be myself with someone and let them make up their mind about me (judge me) without any BS from me, I told this person everything. I told this person that I identify as androgyne or ‘both genders at the same time, at least on the inside’. I was scared, but I did it.

This person looked me in the eye, shrugged a little, and said, “Okay.” Since then, this person has told me a few times that they like me. That they REALLY LIKE me.

Sometimes I find myself thinking that this person just might be ‘perfect’ for me and I might be ‘perfect’ for them. Talking about mushy, relationshipy stuff is one hurdle that both of us have yet to fully climb over, if that ever happens, but I feel very accepted for who I really am. All that I am.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

You can call me… Danny

I identify as… a panromantic, polysexual, genderfluid fishbot.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer he/him, xe/xem, or they/them. Fin/fins or bot/bots is fine, too.

I’m attracted to… pretty much anyone.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be gentle!

I want people to understand… that gender exists outside of the binary. That people think on different wavelengths. That things like sexism, ableism, transmisogyny, homo/lesbo/bi/transbigotry etc. are still problems.

About Danny
I’m Danny, I’m 17, and I’m genderfluid. I think. Gender’s weird anyway but it seems to be the closest fit so I’ll take it. I live in the US and I’m going into my senior year of high school. I like English and learning about different cultures.

» Define yourself. «

Submitted by Kale, the model and photographer.

” I decided to take some portraits one day because i was feeling really secure with myself and my identity for once.”

Someone wrote…

I have been reading your website for about a year now and I am so happy to know that there are a lot of other people in this world who don’t accept the gender that society imposes on them and are willing to push the boundaries.

“Beauty in ambiguity” is exactly right and I admire all of you for your courage to be who you are and not what others think you should be.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from The Unfeminine Aesthetic.

“I smell like pizza and am sleepy.”

You can call me… Andy

I identify as… Genderqueer female.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Don’t know. Everyone I know calls me she/her/herself, but I’m not thrilled with it since I discovered there are options.

I’m attracted to… Men.

When people talk about me, I want them to… respect me for valid reasons.

I want people to understand… that nobody has life figured out.

About Andy
I don’t really do self-promotion. That being said, I’m 30, faab, but definintely more in-touch with my masculine side. I’m a diesel mechanic, or I at least I like to think I am. I’m not unfriendly, but I come off that way because I’m socially awkward.

» Define yourself. «

Minefloozle wrote…

I’m genderfluid, and I realized it less than a year ago– before then, I don’t remember ever thinking that my gender was anything other than “female.” So when I go for days without my gender changing, I start to question how well “genderfluid” fits me, and I get scared… I love being genderfluid.

I wish I hadn’t internalized so much doubt about it being a valid identity.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from Dapper Tomboy (via Reverie in Reality).

Someone wrote…

Part of the fun about being genderqueer is coming up with non-traditional labels. My go-to ones are gendermixed and transqueer (which also take the form of transmixed), but I’m a huge fan of andro-sparkly, gender flexible, gender non-traditional, and sugar masculine.

What are your favourites?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?