Bathrooms

Someone wrote…

I’ve always been comfortable using women’s bathrooms when there aren’t any gender neural ones around. It’s a few other people who get uncomfortable.

They look at my hair and clothes, superficial details about me as a person, and assume I’m a man using the wrong bathroom. Some even get aggressive and yell at me as if I’m a predator. I feel that they should notice my comfortable demeanor and realize that I’m not in the wrong bathroom.

It gets old having to explain to strangers that sometimes women look masculine, every time I have to use the bathroom but, on the bright side, their exposure to me is a lesson on gender. Eventually I won’t have to deal with women who think they know my anatomy more than I do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 11th, 2014 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Bathrooms”

  1. Thomas

    I am FAAB, and have run into this situation quite a few times as well. My standard response when someone tells me I’m in the wrong washroom is “Oh, is there a different room designated for me to change my tampon?” A little crass, yes, but it gets the point across and helps them see that female bodies aren’t restrained to their definitions.

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    Anonymous replied:

    I might have to steal this one

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  2. Yoliz

    I have the same problems it drives me crazy. It makes it uncomfortable when there is a lot of people in the restroom. I usually till it empty so I don’t have to deal with it. I love the family restrooms. But in a small town there is none.

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