Someone wrote…

Most days I feel the need to bind, but when I do, I feel terrible because it makes me realise that I’ll never be able to bind ~completely flat~, that’s just not what my body can do.
I’m torn between wearing bras and feeling mediocre, and wearing a binder and having this huge insecurity as well as some extreme joy… I don’t know how to handle it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on December 9th, 2014 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice One comment »

One Response to “Binding”

  1. minefloozle

    I’m right there with you with the not being able to bind completely flat. It sucks, aye?

    I’ve been finding a couple of things to help though. For one thing, button-down shirts help to disguise what won’t lie flat, and they give me an extra self-confidence boost by making me feel put-together. It’s not perfect, but every little bit helps, for me.

    For another, other people don’t tend to pay as much attention to you as you do. I’m constantly trying to hide the protrusion of my chest when I bind, but most people? Not looking. Wouldn’t, unless I pointed it out. Hell, I got called a “boyfriend” by a bus driver once in skinny jeans and a tank top and bra.

    And on the especially bad days; sometimes all I can do is put on a binder, pull the blankets up to my chin, and try to distract myself. Without anyone else there to see me, and with the blankets hiding all they can, I’m a lot less self-conscious…

    I can’t speak for your experience, of course. I suppose I simply wanted to let you know that you’re not alone, feeling torn.

    You’re awesome.


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