Someone wrote…

I was getting really hung up on struggling with what’s true for me, what’s a product of societal programming, and the incessant binary thoughts of “wait if I’m not cis then I must be trans, right?” grinding away in my head. Then I got a piece of advice that almost instantly quieted it all down and helped it all make sense for me. I go back to it frequently.

“Stop thinking of it terms of gender and start thinking of it terms of comfort. Do the “women’s” clothes you wear make you feel comfortable? Then wear them!

Does looking more femme make you feel more comfortable some days more than others? Then look femme!

Same goes for your body, the way you talk, the way you move, the way you express yourself. It doesn’t have to be about any notion of gender binary. It can just simply be about physical manifestations of what makes you feel good.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on July 22nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Comfort”

  1. Chris

    Wow, thank you for posting this. I am struggling with my identity right now myself, and this is a great way to think of things.


  2. Jack

    I love this idea. Thanks. It will help me too :-)


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