Getting to make a choice

Someone wrote…

Today, I changed my gender on Facebook from female to pangender. I noted that the pronouns I prefer is they/them. It felt really good.

Just lately I’ve had to fill out a lot of forms. Each time, I’ve found it harder to face the either or question of gender. Which box do I check? Why am I forced to make this choice over and over. That’s not even accurate. A choice implies, it’s my decision what box I’m put in. Today, I actually got to make a choice.

Freedom, relief and gratitude all flowed through me. And so, I did more than just change my profile. I wrote about my experience on Facebook. It’s a small start but I have realized this is my fight too.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 16th, 2014 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice One comment »

One Response to “Getting to make a choice”

  1. Anonymous

    Congratulations! I wish facebook would make the pronouns and gender options available in other languages other than US English.

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