It hurts to be who I was born as

Someone wrote…

I don’t understand how I can be born into a body and reject the total thought of it being mine, but being unable to change it other than for a short time frame because soon enough I’ll want it to be mine again. How come I can’t just be male or female? Why cant I just decide on a gender instead of playing this weird flip flop thing with it?

I don’t want to have to scout out the only gender neutral bathrooms at the mall in order to feel comfortable peeing!

I just want to be normal but it hurts to be who I was born as. It hurts everytime I’m told “So you were only pretending to be trans” or every time the people I love introduce me as “she” as if “they” is an inconvenience. Even genderfluid people forget my pronouns and I just can’t correct them.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 14th, 2014 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice One comment »

One Response to “It hurts to be who I was born as”

  1. minefloozle

    Aah, I emphathize–this describes how I feel quite often. I can’t really offer advice; so much of the world is organized in a way that really screws us over. You’re valid, and you’re wonderful, and those people should be recognizing that.

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