Question: Neutral dress clothes?

Harley asks…

I’m going to my cousin’s wedding soon, and since I’m agender, I’d like to find something fairly androgynous to wear.

Since I’m also DFAB, and have a somewhat feminine face, a suit or men’s dress shirt and tie would probably work alright. However, I would like to find a more androgynous alternative if at all possible.

Do gender-neutral dress clothes exist, and if so, where can I find them?

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Posted by on August 14th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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4 Responses to “Question: Neutral dress clothes?”

  1. fluffy

    It’s too bad Genderplayful hasn’t really gone anywhere. As a shop concept it’d have been perfect for finding things like this; as a blog concept it’d have been perfect for discussing things like this.


  2. Xoras

    I don’t know any specific androgynous cloth for such an event, because clothes are very gendered. And i think it’s more difficult for DFAB to be see as androgynous via clothing, because it’s more common to see male clothes on female shaped bodies than vice versa.
    Maybe you could mix some stuff, like men’s dress + high heels, or chestbinding + female shirt.


  3. lin

    I had the same problem. I usually wear neutral clothes but for the wedding I went with an androgynous look in the sense that it was mixing heavily gendered clothing. Which for me was fine for the day, since it is always a bit costume-ish to dress up for a wedding.
    I don’t know if it works for you but I combined a black knee length pencil skirt with a white smoking shirt and dark red bow tie/ kummerbund (one that is wide all the way around). Rather feminine shoes aswell, otherwise it would have been dude-in-a-skirt like (which is a little different). So from top to waist it was traditionally male and from waist down it was rather traditionally female.
    I got compliments. :)


  4. Glitterus Wolfus

    Just went through this too! I have a boy body and am not opposed to (somewhat) masculine clothes, but having recently made much of my parter’s family aware of my queer gender identity I wanted my outfit to make my identity more visible.

    I ended up wearing all female items with masculine touches, like a black skirt that had military detailing with a white button up blouse. Wore suspenders too, which I love with a skirt and button up, and high-heeled fold over boots that I thought were very Prince (“I’m not your woman/I’m not your man/I am something that you’ll never understand!”)

    Bow ties are great. I also love ribbon ties (check out Joan Crawford in Johnny Guitar!) I am always inspired when I look at Dapper and Swag and love the collar clips on their Etsy store.

    Good luck and have fun!


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