Taking Value

Someone wrote…

I spoke, as a professional, at a gender conference this last week. Then, in the last session of the conference I got to sit down with a bunch of other non-binary folks like myself. I’m DMAB, old, and bald and I was dressed in the most authentic way I could. I felt absolutely beautiful and whole and everyone in the room seemed equally beautiful. I felt more belonging than ever before in my life.

I left the conference and changed into my daily uniform; the one that makes people see what they’re comfortable with. I’m so tired of being anything other than cis. I didn’t ask for this and I wonder if I’m just too old to ever take any value from it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 3rd, 2014 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Taking Value”

  1. Something queer to read

    You’ll never be too old for anything ;)

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  2. Anonymous

    Gosh this is how I feel sometimes. I feel like I’m so deep in trying to please everyone else and that my means of living is so wrapped up in it that I can’t express myself. It’s just hard, I guess. Idk. Thanks for articulating this, though!

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