The appreciation of all of me

Someone wrote…

I’m AFAB, but I’ve never felt particularly attached to the notion of myself as a girl/woman, or to the notion of any one particular gender – as applied to myself – at all.

Some days I feel slightly more feminine or masculine, but most of the time I fall somewhere else on the gender spectrum, or completely outside it. However, I find myself attracted mostly to gay men, or bisexual men who tend to lean more towards homosexuality. While I feel completely comfortable with my body and my physical appearance, it is rather discouraging to think that it – being obviously biologically female – lowers the odds of someone I’m attracted to being attracted back to me practically to zero (living in a conservative country where a significant part of the population does not realise or accept that it is possible to be anything other than cishet doesn’t help either).

I just wish that for once, someone could appreciate me in all of my maleness, femaleness and queerness.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on September 12th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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