To start correcting
Someone wrote…
I think I need to start correcting my mom when she calls me a girl. Using ‘she’ is okay, I guess. I don’t like it, but I told her when I came out to her that she could keep doing that if it made her more comfortable. But calling me her ‘daughter’, calling me a ‘girl’… no. I’ve had it with this. She needs to understand that she can’t invalidate my gender identity.
What’s your experience?
Posted by Freiya on November 26th, 2014 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 2 comments »
November 26th, 2014 at 3:00 pm |
Changing some things and not others is harder for many people than a total switch, I think. It’s the difference between training your mind to use the ‘other’ set of words and assumptions all the time, versus one set in some circumstances and another at other times – the cognitive load required is much greater. It might e easier in the long run to ask her to switch entirely, but be prepared to be very lenient for a few years.
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November 27th, 2014 at 6:55 pm |
You’re absolutely right, submitter. You’re valid. You deserve to be comfortable and to be treated as the gender identity that you are.
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