To start correcting

Someone wrote…

I think I need to start correcting my mom when she calls me a girl. Using ‘she’ is okay, I guess. I don’t like it, but I told her when I came out to her that she could keep doing that if it made her more comfortable. But calling me her ‘daughter’, calling me a ‘girl’… no. I’ve had it with this. She needs to understand that she can’t invalidate my gender identity.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on November 26th, 2014 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “To start correcting”

  1. Imp

    Changing some things and not others is harder for many people than a total switch, I think. It’s the difference between training your mind to use the ‘other’ set of words and assumptions all the time, versus one set in some circumstances and another at other times – the cognitive load required is much greater. It might e easier in the long run to ask her to switch entirely, but be prepared to be very lenient for a few years.


  2. minefloozle

    You’re absolutely right, submitter. You’re valid. You deserve to be comfortable and to be treated as the gender identity that you are.


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