Someone wrote…

I know that I want to be a woman. I know that I’ve never felt like a man. But I’m really scared about going through the process of changing who I am.

I think it’s for the best to change how I identify my gender, but I don’t know how to change it or what to identify as. For the time being, I’m just calling myself “undefined” and using the umbrella-term “genderqueer”.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on July 6th, 2014 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Undefined”

  1. RsW

    Sounds similar to where I was at (although reverse the transition… FTM for me) for the first part of my transition, which is *just* coming to a close now that I’ve decided to fully transition. For me, letting myself use genderqueer as an umbrella term, I gave myself the freedom to drift wherever I needed to to discover what I ultimately wanted. There was so much I needed to learn about this world (since I venture to guess that most of us do not grow up surrounded by gender variant people) before I could know I had enough information and understanding (and language!) to transition. Many well wishes for your time of discovery, and beyond!


  2. Anonymous

    If the idea of changing yourself is intimidating, maybe try thinking about it as discovering who you are, rather than changing who you are. That thought has helped me be less freaked out.


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