You Decide

Someone wrote…

For my entire life, I have viewed myself as a unique individual. I have a unique compound name, a unique androgynous style of dress, and a unique personality.

So it has always bothered my when adults make thoughtless comments like, “Do you have a boyfriend?” “You must love shopping, right?” and even, “What a lovely young lady.” Can’t these people see past all of the stereotypes about gender and just speak to me as an individual?

There is one simple question that I love to be asked more than any other, and that is, “Are you a girl or a boy?” I’m often asked this by younger children. And each time it makes me happy that there are people who realize that my long hair and breasts don’t actually determine my gender.

So to this question of “Are you a girl or a boy?” I smile and reply, “You decide.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on May 9th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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