You can call me… Sascha

I identify as… Two Genders, I feel mixed.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Sha

I’m attracted to… My girlfriend only

When people talk about me, I want them to… See the strong boy that I am, and the sensitive woman.

I want people to understand… That I’m not just a woman…

About Sascha
I’m Sascha, 22 years old, genderqueer/genderfluid. I’m from the netherlands and I am a singer/songwriter and am a bookwurm. I also love studying and I just love living life. You can see my music at http://youtube.com/saskiaatjeeh

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Janet Mock publicizes a book drive for trans people behind bars. The 2014 drive is over (more than doubled the goal!), but you can still contribute to LGBT Books to Prisoners year-round.

Someone wrote…

I’m not sure about my gender, I’m really not. It’s been 20 years and I still don’t really know. I’m AFAB and have always felt okay with the idea of being seen as a woman, but I feel like that label limits me in many ways. I don’t really feel like a woman, but not like a man either. A mix of the two?

But I’m okay with being seen as a woman, and I look and dress femme. So though I feel like my gender is very mixed inside, I don’t know if I’ll ever admit to my feelings that I may be genderqueer because it’s just simpler for other people this way.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from nbselflielove

“This is a selfie I took on New Year’s Eve, annnnnd I looked really cute so here’s that. Transfemme selfies forever :3

(she/her and ze/hir)”

You can call me… Sam Dylan Finch, or Sam for short.

I identify as… Genderqueer! Transmasculine! A super androgynous cutie.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/him/his, always.

I’m attracted to… People who wear their hearts on their sleeves. Queer babes who can rock a snapback. Androgyny in all its shapes and forms.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Remember that I am human. Remember that I have feelings. Remember that I am doing the best that I can. And remember that we are all “trans enough.”

I want people to understand… Gender is playful, beautiful, fun, thrilling, and yes, it can be radical and empowering. Transitioning, for me, wasn’t just born out of a struggle — my transition has been a celebration.

About Sam Dylan Finch, or Sam for short.
Sam Dylan Finch is a freelance writer and queer activist, currently living in the San Francisco Bay Area. He is the founder of Let’s Queer Things Up! (letsqueerthingsup.com), an exploration of current events, politics, and popular culture through the lens of queer feminism. His Twitter can be found, unsurprisingly, at @samdylanfinch.

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Reposted from Metamorfosis.

Someone wrote…

I don’t even know how to start this

…Um ever since I was in middle school I’ve always had boyish qualities as well as girlish qualities and I’ve never really thought anything of it. All of 7th grade I dressed and acted and had a secret wish to be identified as a boy. But then I got ridiculed and no boys would date me so I put some feminine makeup on and I loved how I looked so I stayed that way physically.

Sometimes I felt more boyish and sometimes more girlish although my physical appearance was always feminine. I feel like that happens to a lot of people maybe? Anyway a few weeks ago I went shopping with my grandma. I went into the men’s section and tried on some clothes. When I looked in the mirror, I looked more masculine than usual but I actually really liked the way I looked so I bought them.

Today, I actually did FtM makeup and put on one of my outfits and when I saw the completed look I felt this overwhelming…joy? I couldn’t help but smile. But then I had to go out so I put on some awesome lipstick and smokey eye and I felt awesome in that too…

I just don’t know what I’m feeling right now and I’m really confused and I don’t know a soul who would understand any of what the fuck is happening and I’m all alone.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from Words Strike at Midnight.

“I don’t know what pronouns I prefer, so use whatever.”

Elliot CR asks…

Has anyone had top surgery done privately in the UK? I’m looking for surgeons in the London area who are happy with carrying out the procedure privately on non-binary people.

Also, does anyone know if you still need to see a therapist letter beforehand?

Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks a lot in advance.

Please post your response in the comments below.

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You can call me… Sean, Seany, The Queen, Empress Cleopatra Von Nightwing

I identify as… Genderqueer/fluid, polyamorous, -sexual definitely, pan- maybe.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … ‘He’ is a fine default, but ‘she’ makes me feel pretty. Take it as you will.

I’m attracted to… People I find attractive.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Remember good times, laugh about times that were bad but funny in hindsight.

I want people to understand… They’re people.

About Sean, Seany, The Queen, Empress Cleopatra Von Nightwing
Serving my life sentence in Boston.

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Reposted from The Unfeminine Ascetic.

Someone wrote…

I honestly don’t know what I’m thinking about gender right now. Recently, I had almost a mental breakdown with one friend about my sexuality and a heart-to-heart with another friend about me trying to figure out my gender identity. While I had a panic about me being potentially genderfluid but I’m beginning to think that I’m just an androgynous woman who doesn’t care if people see her as a woman, man or little weird thing.

But I’m seventeen and it’s so scary to be myself. I’m beginning to tear up as I write this but I fear that not fitting into the gender binary will just isolate me more from society. I had a long depression about the fact that I’m a (mostly) closeted, black, female-bodied bisexual that doesn’t fit conventional beauty standards and has struggled with self-esteem and body image, and I just don’t want to give people another reason to reject me.

I hurt a little on the inside each time people try to pressure me to wear a dress or straighten my hair, but I’m too scared to tell people a definite no because I don’t want to alienate them. It’s like I wanna scream and rage about my true self being suffocated but I can’t blame them because I’m too scared to even tell them who the real “me” is.

But all of you who are so brave, open, and beautiful about your identities give me hope and the world sunshine, and PLEASE remember that regardless of what others may say.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from Femme Tomboy Fashion.

Moor asks…

I need some advice.

I am biologically female. Ever since I’ve been a little kid, I’ve felt detached from my female gender, but never felt completely male. I always felt like my spirit was male or nongendered, but liked my female appearance in other ways. My favorite movie was Mulan because of the way she seemed to become a man… I wanted that. I felt like it was sort of naughty, but I loved it. But I also thought her makeup was pretty when she was appearing as a female.

My whole life, I felt that I was a man trapped in a woman’s body. All my friends saw me that way. I’ve always found myself comparing myself to men, not women. However, I never considered the fact that I might be trans because I just could never physically imagine a male version of myself… My face looks very ~feminine (I have full lips, high cheekbones, small, pointy nose, almond eyes) and I found satisfaction for whatever reason in my own “prettiness”. I’ve never presented as very feminine (although occasionally I like wearing dresses); I feel very empowered in men’s clothes, but have always liked my face to remain looking feminine. In ways I’ve enjoyed mens’ attention in ways that feel socially “feminine”. Yet at the same time, that feeling of sexuality also makes me feel shitty.

When I was 18, I heard a friend describing their identity as genderqueer and felt automatically like that was what I was. However, I’ve never felt like I could completely match my outside with my inside… when I try to put on more “male” clothing, I feel really great but I still see my face and just feel like I am a woman wearing men’s clothing, which doesn’t match how I feel. In my head, I imagine myself like, as a hooded person with no gender or physical identity.

Until recently. Recently, I’ve been looking at pictures of FtM people and have started thinking… what if I could be a man? Entirely, and fully? Would I be happy?

Part of me is starting to imagine how I would feel if I were a man, if I were on testosterone, and thinks that that might really be who I am inside. I see a physical version of my soul as a man and when I think about it I get really excited. The problem is that I don’t feel like I could be non-binary; I feel like I would have to completely transition with testosterone and that scares the complete living shit out of me. It’s just so hard to imagine what I would look like, what would happen if I were to try and transition and wondering if it would match up to how I felt inside or if I would just be sad losing that part of me that sometimes enjoys playing up my naturally feminine appearance and would regret giving that up? Yet this identity… this idea of me as a man is really strong and feels… right? I just don’t feel like both things match up and it’s been making me feel really depressed recently, and almost suicidal at times… but I don’t know if it’s just a phase.

Has anyone else ever had this experience?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Reposted from Fuck Yeah Queer Black People.

“Men kissing under tree, 1977-78, by Kay Tobin Lahusen”

Someone wrote…

I aim for androgynous, but I’m often read as male. This wouldn’t bother me, if it weren’t for those moments where something (like my legal name) tells people that I’m supposedly female. They look so put-off it’s depressing.

And then again, I kind of like being a gender hack. Pros and cons.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from Shereen Jenkins.

“My first tattoo.”

You can call me… Monster

I identify as… transmasculine, transotherwise, Gender Not Otherwise Specified, inter-gendered, agender, seventh gender

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m similarly uncomfortable with all pronouns besides “it,” but let people call me by whichever set they’re most comfortable with (since most people have a problem with calling a person “it”). I’ve found that I’d rather that I’m uncomfortable when people talk about me than have everyone around me be uncomfortable because of me.

I’m attracted to… people who aren’t afraid of themselves and aren’t afraid of the world and what the world has to throw at them.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see me as just another person, and not question when someone uses a mismatch pronoun or noun to describe me.

I want people to understand… gender dysphoria is an actual thing, and when someone tells you to use a pronoun or a noun, you should use it. It may be awkward and inconvenient for you at first, but to them, your use of correct words could mean the difference between a day of incredible pain and a day to relax a little.

About Monster
I’m Monster: I love minimalism, femme-androgyny, and the color rose. One of my goals in life is to have an extensive collection of beanies. I’m a student looking to find my way to San Francisco to study gender counseling and advocacy.

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Someone wrote…

I love that I can hop between the men’s and women’s sections without a thought when online shopping – only problem is that I wish they were all one section so I could look at all the socks or all the watches or all the rings all at once instead of toggling back and forth.
To me, it’s all the same product with little to no distinction between genders.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

You can call me… Jaye

I identify as… Pansexual, Genderfluid

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t really mind

I’m attracted to… Any gender

When people talk about me, I want them to… Know that it doesn’t matter what they say, I can’t change and I won’t.

I want people to understand… That I am me no matter what and you can’t change me. I like/love who I want. I dress how I want. I am me.

About Jaye

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