Archive for February 2015


More Than Just the Binary.


Half of young people believe gender isn’t limited to Male and Female. (via Fusion.)

” 57 percent of female Millennials believe that gender falls on a spectrum, according to the poll, compared with 44 percent of men. And Millennials in the Northeast were even more likely to say so, at 58 percent. (In the South, that number fell to 42 percent.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 13th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Street Style


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Posted by on February 12th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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To Make Sure


tgpunkpoet wrote…

I wish that I looked like my gender. But then sometimes I feel bad for conforming to the binary. I think, more than anything, I just need to make sure I look like MYSELF.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 12th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Dazzling and Radiant


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“All of these are old but I’m dazzling and radiant.”

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Posted by on February 11th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: Backpacks for not-male


Q asks…

I’ve looked absolutely everywhere for a backpack – school is starting in two days – and nowhere can I find a decent backpack that isn’t made for “businessmen.” I need something strong, supportive, with lots of pockets, including one for a laptop, but every pack I’ve seen is for huge men. When I try to wear these, it kills my neck and looks ridiculous.

I’ve looked at Swiss, Kenneth Cole, and Samsonite mostly, but only the cheaper, less durable, and less practical backpacks (JanSport, Herschel) seem to fit me properly.

The few packs I’ve found that might work only come in purple, or with pink and lime lining, which is out of the question.

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on February 11th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Mr.Sexy Grown-Up


Submitted by Cydnee, the model and photographer.

“Just took a self portrait at work because I realized that when I looked at myself I didn’t see someone ugly, misshapen, unattractive, unsexy, and unmanly.”

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Posted by on February 10th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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A Palette for Gender Expression


Someone wrote…

I would like to share a little. I’m a non-binary person. Any honest gender expression of who you are is valid. There is never a need to justify, explain, or apologize for who you are. All that matters is that you are a decent human being and that you treat others with decency and respect. If dressing femme is not your thing, that’s valid. It’s just as valid as another wearing a blouse, sparkly purple skirt, and tights.

A big problem for the good majority of us is that we were forcibly crammed into one gender box. Some of us are feeling the pressure to conform to a new one. Others of us said f* it, I’m going to be me and not worry about what others think. I am personally in the last category. I wear what I want and what I like. I don’t wear femme things. It isn’t because I see femme things as lesser – it is simply because the things designated as femme are not my thing. I hope this makes sense. Clothes do not a gender make. They should be treated as a palette for gender expression.

All gender expressions are valid. The most amazing thing is that even the clothing that people gender, such as the aforementioned blouse, tights, purple sparkly skirt and business suit are not inherently feminine or masculine.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 10th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Bry


You can call me… Bry

I identify as… Genderqueer

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them/their are prefered

I’m attracted to… Anyone of any identity, but not everyone.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about me as respectfully as they would want me to speak of them, without rude comments and derogatory or overly sexual terms.

I want people to understand… That no matter your gender, sex, sexual orientation, race, job, social class, religion, appearance, intellect, etc. we are all human beings and we should all have the same rights – that we all deserve equality and acceptance, and to live free of senseless discriminiation and judgement.

About Bry
Just a genderqueer teen trying to express myself and ignore the ridicule of my peers, while juggling AP classes, band, orchestra, babysitting my siblings, and my sorry excuse for a social/love life. If I ever get rich, I’ll become a philanthropist/human rights advocate, but in the meantime I’ll stick to working hard to get into and through college and go into Biochemical research.

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Posted by on February 9th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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We Never Stop Learning


Someone wrote…

Society is adverse to change, adverse to anything outside of the cultural “norm”, but that doesn’t mean you’re not normal, it just means that more people have yet to learn about you =) It’s okay to be confused, to still be working things out. Everybody is working something out, we never stop learning.

I suspect that people feel a lot of things that they bury or aren’t willing to admit for the sake of “fitting in”, and our feelings and experiences aren’t as unheardof as we think. So don’t be afraid to talk to about it! People might be a lot more receptive and interested than you think. You’re the one that has to deal with you every day, so make yourself happy!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 8th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: What was your process to discover your gender?


Kris asks…

Hey guys. So… I don’t know how to word this so sorry if it comes out really strange…

I am a person who is very deeply questioning my gender and I’m starting to think I might be transgender. I’ve never talked to a transgender person before about being trans, though, and I’m feeling totally lost.

My question is, for older people (like mid 20s and up) who didn’t know their whole life they were trans, what was your thought process that you went through to figure out where you found your gender to be? What kind of questions did you ask and what process did you go through to find your answers?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on February 7th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Being Unsure


Someone wrote…

I feel pretty confused. I kind of really want society to see me as a male (I was born female), but I know that will never happen because I’ve been female my whole life.

It isn’t that I’m very uncomfortable with being female (it’s fine besides that having these things on my chest is kind of uncomfortable to me socially and it always has been that way). I don’t know. I’m not really sure what I identify as, and I kinda want someone to tell me.

All of the things I’ve read about say that only I can tell me what gender I am though. I also haven’t discussed these thoughts with anyone because it might just be my mind making stuff up…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 6th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Maya


You can call me… Maya

I identify as… Genderqueer, intergendered, female

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/Her but I sometimes prefer They/Them

I’m attracted to… Women and queer-identified people. Looks are not important to me – it’s personality that is, although I like the odd tattoos or piercing :)

When people talk about me, I want them to… Understand that I’m no different from them and if they don’t understand something, then to ask me.

I want people to understand… That I am me.

About Maya
I’m Maya. I’m 21 and I’m a student studying a Masters in Creative Writing. I love cats, good cups of coffee, herbals tea, notebooks and pens, my guitar and tattoos and piercings. I have two tattoos myself and would like to have more in the future.

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Posted by on February 5th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Expressions of Gender


Someone wrote…

Sometimes when I was younger, I’d want to be a boy.
Like, I’d dream of getting breast reduction surgery when I was older so I could go out looking like a man (I was young and slightly clueless then) but I’d still act quite girly, because that was what I was brought up as/brainwashed to be.

Then when I discovered gender identity, I initially thought of being genderfluid, because the idea of sometimes being a boy and sometimes being a girl really appealed to me. But I didn’t sometimes feel like a boy and sometimes like a girl inside; I felt neither. So I came to the conclusion (after doing some research) that I was neutrois, but could express myself as genderfluid (although I am currently unable to express myself looking like a boy, because of my long thick hair). But I’m still in the habits of referring to myself as female, and automatically going about my daily life as though I was a cis female.

Is this just because I’m so used to ‘being’ female? Or am I mistaken about my gender identity?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 4th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Just Toilets


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Posted by on February 3rd, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: How Do I Get My Family To Accept My Gender Fluidity?


Jai Wolfe asks…

So, coming up soon is the anniversary of my coming out as gender fluid to my parents and siblings… My older sister, and the friends that I’ve come out to since have understood and been amazingly supportive, but the rest of my “in the know” family has gone on using my old name and pronouns.

Those things feel like shackles now, and I can’t take it anymore. Does anyone have advice in how to make them take me more seriously on this matter?

Nothing I’ve tried has worked. I want them to stop calling me he, and start calling me Ni. I want to really be me around those I know still love me. Also tips for finding good neutral clothing would be amazing. Thanks all you beautiful people. Muah!

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on February 3rd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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The day.


@neonsigh wrote…

I’m looking forward to the day when today’s genderqueer tumblr teen generation is out of their parents houses and running the world.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 2nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Shan


You can call me… Shan

I identify as… afab neutrois biromantic asexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them sometimes she/her, he/him

I’m attracted to… femininity, intelligence, and kindness

When people talk about me, I want them to… not discredit my orientation by saying I haven’t “been” with the right man yet. I’ve “been” with men and a woman…it just isn’t my thing.

I want people to understand… I’m still me even if I change my looks and/or pronouns. I’ve just chosen to identify by how I feel and not how society deems me to be.

About Shan

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Posted by on February 1st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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