Reposted from fuckyeahsoftfemme.

Someone wrote…

I don’t know what to think about myself. I’m ace and aro, but beyond that, I don’t know. I’m trying to present myself as agender, but I’m just not sure that will ever work out for me. If I wore loose clothing, no one would be able to tell what gender I was. I don’t know. I’m confused.

Some days, I wish there was no such thing as genders. That would make life a bit easier.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from SheWired.

Queer photographer Meg Allen didn’t see the images of masculine women she wanted and needed around her, so she took it upon herself to produce them.

From the article…

Allen tells SheWired, she wanted to celebrate and display her “gorgeous” subjects unrestrainedly, allowing “outsiders a change to look, to stare, without feeling like they’re being invasive.” Her portraits are meant, she says, to be attractive and admired, in contrast to a history of masculine women not feeling fully able to “show” themselves to others due, in part, to an understandable fear of violent reactions. Allen spent time with each model discussing how they thought about their masculinity and wished it to be seen.

You can call me… Arawn or Aaron

I identify as… FTM, genderqueer, demiboy

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He, him /Ze, hir

I’m attracted to… Sexually to girls, Panromantic.

When people talk about me, I want them to… I can’t control what people talk about me, I just don’t want them to be mean.

I want people to understand… Gender role and gender expression can be independent.

About Arawn or Aaron
I like to be male, but I want to have female beauty as well, I like to look feminine without using feminine clothes at all.

I’ve already gone through testosterone, breast surgery and my uterus is gone, as well as a male legal name and identity, so, most of my actual fellows don’t know that I’m trans… its kind of lonely.
I love cats, movies (I’m a film student), cartoons/manga, rock/metal, sci-fi, combat related stuff and mythology related stuff.

» Define yourself. «

Reposted from cocoa-flavoredkisses.

Someone wrote…

I can’t wait for the day I start HRT…*sighs*

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from skarrlettkrowsnest.

“This picture was taken on March 4th, 2015, eight and a half months on legal HRT at this point. Very glad with the results so far and am especially grateful for my friends who’ve cut my hair and lent or given me more fitting clothes. I’ve also gone back to epilating my face as well as everywhere else I find necessary and am getting better at this whole eyebrow game.”

Someone asks…

I’m thinking of buying a new binder.

So far I’ve only had binders with velcro. For various reasons, I’m now thinking buying one of those tank-top type of things, but I’m a bit apprehensive.

What I like about the velcro binders is that I can adjust them according to what I’m wearing and I can also loosen it quickly if need be. (Over the last nine or so years I’ve only needed to do that once.)

So I guess what I’m asking is, can anyone give me some kind of a comparison on these points? I imagine the tank-top binder as being tight and possibly uncomfortable compared to the velcro binder.

Please post your response in the comments below.

» Ask Genderfork «

Reposted from Straight Lowkey.

Someone wrote…

I’ve just bought my first binder and it’s amazing! I’m not going to wear it all of the time – because I am Genderqueer, I don’t feel the need to present with a flat chest all of the time but at some certain points I really desperately want to – and now I can. Never be afraid to express your gender in any way that makes you happy – I wish I’d had the confidence to get my binder sooner! Now I’m enhancing my gender presentation as a Genderqueer/female-identified person and it feels brilliant :)

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from Faces-for-equality.

Veychi asks…

Hey fellow Genderforkers,

Any ideas on how to cope with having to use a heavily gendered language to get through everyday life? My first language is gendered to the point where not even a simple sentence such as “I was” can be formed without choosing a “male” or “female” form, and constantly having to use forms consistent with the only gender I am perceived as really messes with my head, since whenever I speak I feel like my speech further enforces the gender binary and traps me within it a little bit more.

I wish I lived in an English-speaking country simply because the language leaves much more room for improvisation and innovation.

Please post your response in the comments below.

» Ask Genderfork «

Reposted from NewNew.

Someone wrote…

Throughout my life I’ve felt agender. Androgynous. But over the past 5 years, I’ve begun to consider myself masculine of center/trans*.
I dress in male clothing, I like to be perceived as male, and I go by male pronouns. Lately I’ve been questioning whether I’m still in the middle of the gender spectrum. I’ve been envying male bodies and wish I could have certain characteristics for myself. The thing about transitioning is that it’s simultaneously terrifying and fascinating to me at the same time. The changes are permanent. I only want some of the changes that testosterone brings, but I cannot pick and choose the traits I develop if I do start T.

Can anyone who has been living in the middle of the gender spectrum relate? I want masculine traits when I want them, but not all the time. The days when I feel more masculine are when I feel dysmorphia. Most other days I’m fine. Any advice or stories?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submitted by Chris, the model/photographer/model and photographer.

“I was really confused about what made me feel good. I decided I would try and put makeup on and dress up. After doing so and taking a picture, I saw that in that picture, that was me.”

morrison recommends…

I felt like I was opening up a body as I read these poems. Picking apart bones and untwisting veins. These poems are written in ways that re-imagine what a page is, what a body is, what gender is/means. I feel enlightened and full of so many questions. I’ve begun to reread to search for the hidden meanings behind each word. Wow.

» Recommend something. «

Reposted from Queerandpresentdanger.

“today 2 ppl told me my smile is contagious. my new fav thing maybe is pictures of me laughing.”

Someone wrote…

When I was a kid, I looked pretty gender-neutral. I wanted to climb trees and hang out with boys, but I was just “an ugly girl,” so I hung out with my two other “ugly girl” friends. I wanted to be pretty, so I could hang out with the other 19 kids in my class, too, but no.

Nowadays, I look very much like a girl. I have strong hip game, I’m short, I have pretty red hair, and I sing mezzo-soprano. I still don’t hang out with the “normal” people, since those I know are stupid, assholes, or both. I still have my friends. But now I want to cut all my long hair off. I want to be tall. I want to sing baritone. I want to be genderfluid and pass as male without the anxiety of bathrooms and binders.

Nowadays, it’s so painfully obvious I’m a girl. I can’t go to the right bathroom without getting yelled at and chased out. I get weird looks in the locker room, since I sewed my binder myself. I got catcalled the other day! I was wearing my baggiest Tshirt and jeans!

I don’t want to look so strongly female. I want to be neutral again..

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from Sometypicaldingus.

“YUP STILL REALLY HOT (Edit, forgot pronouns: she/her and ze/hir pronouns)”

You can call me… Frankie, or ‘You’, jus as long as you don’t call me late for dinner.

I identify as… a huge tomboy.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/He I don’t mind, please just don’t say ‘It’.

I’m attracted to… Good humoured, knd, intelligent, genuine people.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Make it sound like I’m a badass rock star with 8 Grammies.

I want people to understand… that they shouldn’t look at others and try to figure out their preferences and identities. They should look at them and wonder if they have a charming personality.

About Frankie, or ‘You’, jus as long as you don’t call me late for dinner.

» Define yourself. «