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I’m Good With That


Someone wrote…

Yesterday I realized that I’m okay with dating people who are sexually attracted exclusively to members of my birth sex even if I am uncomfortable identifying under it. I’ve come so far to know that no matter how their hormones and subconscious sees me, the love they have is, in the end, unrelated to my identity and more related to the traits I possess that make me embody that identity and embody my imposed ones. I’m good with that.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 10th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Riley Alexandr


You can call me… Riley Alexandr, or just “friendo”

I identify as… Genderfluid, pansexual, and polyamorous

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I really don’t care. He/him, she/her, they/them; whatever.

I’m attracted to… Anyone interesting, frequently philosophical, good with puns, and open to discussion about life’s struggles.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Make happy ferret noises and hug each other.

I want people to understand… That, despite my unhealthy addiction to cardboard boxes, I will never fit into any box that someone tries to categorise me with. I am too much of a living paradox, a contradiction, for any singular preconceived idea to contain me entirely.

About Riley Alexandr, or just “friendo”

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Posted by on November 9th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Megan


You can call me… Megan

I identify as… a proud transgender girl

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/her

I’m attracted to… Who knows? I haven’t really figured that out yet. Im only 16.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be nice, not spread rumors, and treat me like anyone else!

I want people to understand… I’m just like any other girl, I was just born with male parts.

About Megan
I’m a 16 year old trans girl who is a NCBI leader, trumpet player, and peer mentor. I love music especially Blood,Sweat and Tears and The Soul Rebels. I have 2 cats, Midnight and Shadow. I plan on majoring in Psychology and Gender Studies in college and becoming a therapist for trans and non binary kids, teens and their families.

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Posted by on November 9th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Topias


You can call me… Topias

I identify as… Androgyne or genderfluid

As far as third-person pronouns go, … In my language, Finnish, there is no m/f separation – everone is just “hän”. Which is cool. In English I don’t really care. I’m just me.

I’m attracted to… Beautiful things! Also a good sense of humour and a positive world view are attractive.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Feel like they are talking about a friend.

I want people to understand… That being yourself and getting accepted as such are huge deals in life.

About Topias
I do sports professionally and travel a lot.

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Posted by on November 8th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Libra


Someone wrote…

People often ask me why I identify as both genderfluid and genderqueer. I never really have a decent answer, because I can’t speak very well. But here’s my story.

Okay, so I’m a Libra. Known for being diplomatic and for understanding all viewpoints, Libras sometimes tend to absorb bits and pieces of identities they are exposed to. This includes me. Now, I’ve been exposed to a great number of gender identities over the years, and I can’t help but wonder about this.

I know people of nearly every gender. I can also empathise with nearly every gender. I mostly consider myself genderfluid, because I can identify with nearly every gender. Is this because I’m a Libra? Have I just absorbed so many genders over the years that they’ve blended together and splattered over my own identity? If so, what am I? Or am I truly genderfluid? I’ve seen a lot of genders, and the one I feel like the most is genderfluid. But where did that come from: me or my experiences?

I don’t really know what I am, so genderqueer works, I guess. But I still feel connected to “genderfluid” somehow. That’s why I identify as both.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 8th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Jake


You can call me… Jake

I identify as… Mainly male, but, sometimes female.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them mainly, next him, next she.

I’m attracted to… Women 3/4th of the time, BUT, somedays my attraction to men makes it 50/50.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Know me for me, understand what gender I am for the day, and… Be able to speak positively.

I want people to understand… I’m not a lesbian. I’m not straight. I’m not bisexual for attention. I’m mainly a man, not a woman. This isn’t a phase. This is life. I have depression.

About Jake

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Posted by on November 7th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: How can I cope with close people coming out before me?


asks…

My friend came out as trans out of the blue and just before I wanted to, so now I feel like if I come out people will think I’m copying them. How do I cope with coming out when others around me are as well?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on November 7th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Oliver



You can call me… Oliver

I identify as… a genderqueer transmasculine person

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer he/him or they/them.

I’m attracted to… I’m attracted exclusively to genderqueer/androgynous people, specifically those who are transmasculine as I am

When people talk about me, I want them to… not be afraid to ask me questions and be genuine in who they are.

I want people to understand… I have a hard time settling on terminology

About Oliver
I am Oliver, I love cats, people, sandwiches, dancing, and chocolate. I study literature at Winthrop University. I wish I had more support in my life from people who are going through similar stuff.

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Posted by on November 6th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Genderally


Someone wrote…

I’d like to propose a new word: Genderally.

“Genderally” [GEN-der-ah-lee] adverb:
1 – Regarding the overall concept of one’s gender identity, usually in a conclusive statement.
Example: “I’m not quite sure what I am, but genderally I am quite feminine.”

2 – Regarding a specific aspect of one’s gender identity, describing it in a general manner.
Example: “I have no particular pronouns, but genderally I prefer masculine ones.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 6th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Cody


You can call me… Cody

I identify as… myself

As far as third-person pronouns go, … whatever, i answer to it all

I’m attracted to… chill dudes

When people talk about me, I want them to… be understanding and open-minded

I want people to understand… everyone is different and that’s totally awesome

About Cody
I believe in fluidity. Being mindful and respectful of everyone and everything. Let’s not waste our short time being hateful and rude. It doesn’t look cute on anyone. Also, be kind to creatures of all shapes and sizes.

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Posted by on November 5th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Alright



A message of validation and support for us all :)


Posted by on November 5th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Jordan


You can call me… Jordan

I identify as… a gender fluid female

As far as third-person pronouns go, … she/her

I’m attracted to… girls

When people talk about me, I want them to… be kind. Not laugh at me or spread rumors. Remember that I am not just my gender id and sexual orientation I am a person.

I want people to understand… gender isn’t just male and female. Its a wonderful, confusing spectrum.

About Jordan
I am a 16 year old who loves anime, art, cats and cooking. I want to be a human rights advocate, graphic designer and a mother. My greatest wish in life is to have the acceptance of my parents.

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Posted by on November 4th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Triple A


Someone wrote…

I’m agender, aromantic, and asexual. So just call me a battery cos I’m a triple A.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 4th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: M.


You can call me… M.

I identify as… asexual, agender fluid, gray heteromantic, techy, nerd

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She, Her

I’m attracted to… Intelligent, funny, thoughtful,gentle, kind guys. Someone who can be funny one moment but completely caring the next. If you like to nerd out all the better. Just someone I can talk about all the weird craziness in the world with and maybe argue about what was the best version of Star Trek or the best firefly episode.

When people talk about me, I want them to… understand that a single person cannot be summed up in a conversation and that we are all made of a million different unique facets that make us up as a whole. So, don’t assume you ever know the whole person and never judge someone by the little bit that you think you know.

I want people to understand… now that you know a little more about me than you did. That I’m still me and that nothing has ever changed. I’m no different now than I was a moment ago.

About M.
I love

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Posted by on November 3rd, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: Appearing Androgynous


Alexa/ Alex asks…

Is there a way to make myself androgynous without cutting my hair short and wearing very masculine clothing?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on November 3rd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Still You Underneath


Someone wrote…

I saw something here once that compared transitioning with dyeing your hair red, in that, while it is difficult and hard to perfect, you still look great. I really liked it and found it relatable, since I myself am transgender, and as such I’d like to build on the existing metaphor.

Identifying as something is like dyeing your hair. You are fabulous as you are, and the opinions of others really don’t mean shit. And if you end up dyeing your hair another color, that’s totally fine too! It doesn’t mean your hair was never REALLY the first color. It doesn’t mean that twenty-year-old you was an idiot for being a blonde when thirty-year-old you is so CLEARLY a brunette. It just means that your hair color changed. It was still you underneath, and changing the title of your identity doesn’t invalidate your past identities.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 2nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Ash


You can call me… Ash

I identify as… nonbinary, genderfluid, trans*, pan, deer prince!

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/him and they/them

I’m attracted to… masculine and dominant people, smart people, sweet people, funny people

When people talk about me, I want them to… know i have anxiety, know that i love a good debate don’t take our difference in opinion to heart, know i am more than my identity

I want people to understand… i don’t care what you think of me im gonna keep doing me

About Ash
I’m Ash. You can totally find me at supersm-ash-bros on tumblrrr. you can also find me at kawaiikittensofficial. I’m arsenalkatnep on instagram! I like homestuck and animals and kittenplay and games and lots of other stuff! check me out and shoot me a message!

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Posted by on November 1st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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